“I should have been the one working late, not her. If I had been a better provider, she wouldn’t have to work so hard.”
Divorce
What I Need To Tell You: Take Heart After Divorce, It Gets Better.
I’m happy. My posts/poems about desire are really about hoping and striving towards “what’s next.” And most of the anger, though it flairs sometimes with the inane actions of my ex-y, are buried in the past three years.
Finding Balance In the Inequitable Life After Divorce
A happy ex-wife is much better than an angry one. And the more we can keep the lines of cooperative communication open, after divorce, the more flexibility we have when we too need help.
Listening to the Little Man Inside, Healing Our Hearts
Even with everything we do, there is still the hardship of divorce. There is no way around the scarring.
Whimsical Sex and Other Unexplainable Marital Ecstasies
Maybe I should’ve made sexual connection more of an issue in couples therapy, rather than letting most of our discussions and negotiations focus on some crisis that always seemed to be at the top of her list.
You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling
We were happy in our little dream and we were working hard to keep it warm and fun. And of course we had the baby boy. The amazing baby boy.
Stealing Beauty: How Our Culture Sells Women
My taste has a lot more to do with where I am in my life and process than it does some measure of beauty that is fed to me via the media.
The Divorce Whisperer
I was confident that my joy and hard work would re-warm her heart, and we would see bright-days again. I was wrong.
Digging Into Anger: Of Course You’re Not Happy With Me, We’re Divorced
When I accessed my anger that night, it was like a switch had been thrown on inside and the power to my healthy system was restored.
What A Single Dad Wants In the *Next* Relationship
After divorce, learning to trust again is difficult. Here's one dad's qualification list.
Let’s Hook Up, Wait… I Mean, Let’s Go Out On A Date…
A Few Small Repairs: The Broken-Dance In Marriage
If something is broken, or a lightbulb is out, just fix it. Waiting on repairs as a measure of commitment or caring is a double-edged sword.
The One That Got Away, Part Two: Scenes From a Divorce #11
As Steve Axelrod relives one of the most romantic moments in his life, he falls in love once more with the one that got away.
All Available Light: Positive Parenting Energy Is Never Lost
Live your life as you would like to see your kids living theirs. Show them the adults they can be, by demonstrating the best that you can be. Anything less is a miss.
The One That Got Away, Part One: Scenes From a Divorce #10
In the midst of divorce, Steve Axelrod holds out hope that reconnnecting with an old flame may prove to be something more.
Hope and Ultimatums: Scenes From a Divorce #9
Steven Axelrod continues his painful quest to understand dating after divorce.
Joining the Club: Scenes From a Divorce #8
Steve Axelrod reminisces on his lost love and realizes he’s not alone as he thought he was. He just wishes he enjoyed the company.