Some of the problems with online dating is our inability to be authentic about who we are and what we are looking for. We’re too busy trying to oversell ourselves and find better and cuter partners.
If you’re feeling hopeless take apart the heavy rope and look at what the parts of your depression are. I can work directly on some of my issues. I can write about some of the others.
I think you can see it, feel it, get a gut reaction about it, all from a single photo in a few seconds. RIGHT or LEFT. It’s a binary decision.
When I have the immediate RIGHT SWIPE I am hopeful that the woman will swipe back and we will have an opportunity to carry on a conversation. I have no expectations that this will lead to a coffee date or a future relationship.
I’m trying to learn from my swiping activities. Are there simple metrics that cause me to swipe right? Am I able to identify the obvious ones that cause me to swipe left? Dating a single parent has inherent challenges.
I can focus on my relationship with my kids. That’s all I’ve got. Worrying about my ex-wife or lamenting the past doesn’t do much for me or my children.
If you are going to agree to a collaborative or cooperative divorce, there may be very little negotiation ahead. Dear Dad, Welcome to the new adventure called divorce. Today we’re going to go over some of the basics, so you know what to expect. Don’t worry if things don’t go as planned, they rarely do.…
If I am happy alone, creating and aspiring with all the time available to me. Perhaps, I need to look for another creative person, who has similar creative impulses. I can support another artist in all her endeavors.
You can’t be healthy and hate your body. You could try shaming yourself into eating less, but I find this habit is not helpful. And contributes to depression.
Dear beautiful woman, you are safe near me. I appreciate you. I admire your effort in maintaining your fine figure. And, let me know if you’d like to have a conversation.
The sad part is my kids don’t get much of me and my happiness. They get something less than joyful, most of the time. I can see it and feel it in them.
I hate to break the news to you about online dating apps. They are not in the business of connecting you with your next true love. They are in the business of making money.
We want partners who can state their needs and aspirations clearly. Then, we can either agree, negotiate, or move on.
I have been fooled before by beauty. I have let my sexual drive determine my trajectory, even when red flags were flying from balustrade. I am determined not to repeat this misfire.
What I am learning in my recovery from depression and anxiety is that my feelings are never the complete answer. And often, my feelings just are.
Does absence make the heart grow fonder, or in her case, will she simply forget about me? Either way, the answer will be obvious. I don’t have to go after the answer.