Online dating is okay if you’re trying to maximize your potential reach. But don’t spend Sunday afternoon browsing dating profiles hoping to find a partner who is likely to be at a yoga class on a Sunday morning. Go out there and live your life.
I like to be on top of the world, as most of us do, but I haven’t done very well in the past when I sink into “maintenance mode” rather than aspirational mode. What I learned from my last stumble is that I AM MY OWN WORST ENEMY.
How do you reconcile being removed from the typical family Christmas? How do you deal with the 22 days a month that you have little or no contact with your children? How do you afford ANY Christmas presents when you’re struggling to buy gas?
I am pro-mom, but I’m more pro-family. If we agree to have kids it’s 50/50 forever. Anything less, and I would not have agreed to have kids in the first place.
I think what this writer is trying to express is that our daily actions and acts of affection are important and should be focused with loving attention. And further, that our social media obsessions can often entertain us at the expense of connecting with our partners.
I believe, that every action we take is either towards our goals or away from them. This is true in relationships. This is true in our work. And this is an essential lesson to contemplate when you are trying to restoke the fire in our belly.
I am lovable just as I am. I am lovable with brown hair or grey hair. I am loved at my current weight and even when I’m heavier. I am loved just as I am. I am not sure I believe all of what I just wrote, but I’m on my own journey to get there.
Let’s both decide where to go in our future. Let’s both listen to what the other person wants, rather than assuming we know. And let’s get away from the swiping frenzy and into the process of building a lasting relationship.
A dad’s path is different after divorce. We are forced to become a wolf pack of one. We’ve got to pick ourselves up and reinvent our lives. As the mom and kids stay in the marital home, dads are given the boot. This jarring fracture from life before the divorce is what causes so many of them to give up on themselves and their families.
Max Powers, today, is walking into the 2019 Holiday season with a much better plan. Take care of all the things you can take care of. Work your program. Let go of the things you cannot control.
Do you sabotage your own happiness by being down on yourself? Do you see moments of reflection and recovery as failures? If you don’t give yourself downtime, perhaps your body or your mental state will do it for you.
Having the “long-term” discussion before you have the first date is a good idea. I don’t want to go out with someone who is not interested in me as an LTR.
Love is an active journey. Your participation is not optional, it’s mandatory. Give your partner everything you’ve got and expect the same from them. In this way, you can both move closer together, move through old scars and dysfunctions, and build a relationship that becomes everything you’ve ever wanted.
Men need to be good men. And we need help defining what’s good, what’s “over the line,” and what’s “adventurous and brave.” But we can’t start by emasculating ourselves or our male children.
Don’t have that drink. See how you feel. Notice you want a brownie. Pause. Check-in with yourself. Are you hungry? Tired? Sad? Lonely?
I do think my ex-wife and I could’ve agreed to 50/50 parenting and gotten a judge to sign off on our agreement. But she would never have given up her legal/strategic advantage. Perhaps she was doing what she thought was best for the children. Perhaps. But I think she was more self-centered than that, she was doing what she wanted, regardless of the impact on the kids.