This is a comment by Anonymous on the post “I Know Who You Raped Last Summer“.
“This is our problem, Kevin. A male problem. A problem within our society that is our responsibility. A problem in male culture that justifies and condones and makes light of what may well be the most heinous thing about male culture, this propensity towards violence against women.
“I have never had a girlfriend that has not been raped.
“I do not believe a single one of them had reported it, gone through the hell our society forces a woman to endure to report rape. I wonder what the statistics would look like if this crime wasn’t so under reported.
“A few years ago, word began to circulate that a good friend of mine had sexually assaulted a woman that was a member of our mutual circle of friends. Our society is so screwed up that I didn’t even know what to do with the information. I reached out through her female friends, and got her story. In getting to the point of her feeling safe enough to talk to me about what had happened, through talking to the women we both knew, I discovered that this friend of mine had a habit. That this was no isolated incident. That no one, not even the women, had confronted him.
“I did. Less than gracefully, I did. I also helped his victim talk to the police. He was arrested and charged with sexual assault. He was acquitted. I was shunned by nearly all our mutual male friends. I don’t care, I don’t regret what I did one tiny little bit. At least the women started talking about him, alerting each other and any new female around him to the potential danger of his company.
He found a new circle of friends.
“There’s no justice in this system.
“I’m glad you’re talking about this. Men need to talk about this. Men need to hold each other accountable. What these men do to women harms us all.”
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