This comment by Joy on the post Deadbeat Dad Doesn’t Strike Back
As the child of a mother who supported 5 children with NO child support from my father, you would think I’d have little sympathy for fathers in situations like this, but this makes me ANGRY! As a feminist, I would like to think that we’re working toward a better world for BOTH men and women, fathers and mothers. I hate what’s happened to fathers who now feel they have to lash out at ALL women when in reality it’s a system that is so broken and serves nobody – least of all the children. What sense does it make to drive a father into the ground so he CAN’T keep his commitments. Every time I hear stories like this I get so MAD at women who milk the system instead of trying to do what’s best for the children. Women often use their children as a weapon against men who are just trying to survive. Surely to God, there MUST be someone out there who can shake things up before it backfires and we’re all sent back to the dark ages with women completely stripped of their rights again. What a nightmare this must be and I, for one, would give any woman a piece of my mind if I ever had the chance. Enough said!
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Food for Thought:
Since it best foe the kids to spend equal time with both parents after a divorce, does it not make sense to adjust the financial requirements and obligations of both parties to accommodate that?
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So glad to hear your story. We mostly hear the endless battle stories of divorce and not enough of the ones where the parents made it work for the kids. I am divorced myself and there was never a question that this will be a 50/50 arrangement, and our son thrives as a result.
As a child of divorce my (1/2) sister and I spent equal time with both mom and dad, switching every week. Though far from ideal (all of us living together as a family) it did keep them from fighting or using us as a tool to get back at the other. In truth neither had a lot of money and let’s be honest, who plans for divorce and child support payments? When I hear about friends who grew up in a divorced household or who are living through divorce now I feel fortunate that my parents settled things the way… Read more »