This comment by Pauly on the post The One: 10 Traits Your Ideal Soul Mate Should Have
Sorry, I don’t buy the whole “soulmate” idea. It’s just an excuse to not look at your own issues that cause drama and dysfunction in a relationship. I’m not saying that compatibility isn’t important, but the idea that you need to find a “soulmate” is a cop-out; nothing more than a reason for not taking personal responsibility.
+++++
Question of the Day:
Is the whole idea of a “soul mate” simply setting most of us for unsatisfied/broken relationships since we have a simple excuse for failure?
______
See more posts in our Editors’ Favorite Section
Like The Good Men Project on Facebook
Photo: Andy Qiang /Flicker
YES!
Most of the people seeking “a soul-mate” can’t even define what one is! The more effort you put into zeroing in on the definition of soul-mate, the more you start to realize that it’s an unrealistic fantasy: As far as I can tell, a soul-mate is somebody with whom you have incredible sexual attraction, and the relationship doesn’t demand anything of you, it’s easy and wonderful all the time.