It is said to be proper etiquette—and a show of respect and interest—that we should have direct eye contact with the persons with whom we are dialoguing.
Our eyes sometimes reveal our the truths we thought were secrets. They work in conjunction with our body language to expose us when we are disingenuous in our discourse with others. They remove our cloaks of secrecy, revealing our vulnerabilities, heartaches, and disappointments. Our own guilty reactions to a given situation can “let the cat out of the bag”—reveal our guilt to others simply by the look in our eyes. We are bound to be discovered.
Would we consider this an abandonment of “self-protection,” or possibly see it as a flaw in our character, or we might even consider it to be a “spiritual” awakening.
With so many idiosyncratic, involuntary movements in reaction, we are often presented with obstacles to which we may not be sure of how to respond. Or we may have consternation about how to interact during the process of personal engagements as it relates to both the positive and negative causes and effects of a given set of circumstances.
Would you consider the saying “I could see it in his eyes” to be a myth or a scientific fact—or does it lie somewhere in between the two?
We have all heard such sayings as “I saw fear in his eyes,” “they had the look of champions,” “I could see in her eyes that she was lying.” There is an infinite list of quotes that seem to support these analogous assumptions we will vehemently declare that we were able to ascertain, a certainty of sincerity, or some negative, damning “information” about an individual, simply because their eyes allegedly revealed something to us.
In those phrases, we are saying that our eyes have the innate ability to speak without audible utterances. They are somehow connected to our souls and ultimately will speak for us in silence. This silence is used—consciously or unconsciously—as a way of addressing our apprehensions about sharing and about giving a voice that speaks with compassion or a voice that speaks with disdain and disappointment.
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