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Being likable is a concept most commonly associated with looks and prestige. You see that person in the room, irresistibly attractive in a sense that people are naturally drawn to him. “What’s so great about him?” you ask yourself, while pouring over every credential in comparison. On paper, this is a simple knock out the park no-brainer, yet in person it’s a completely different story. Don’t fret or throw the slightest of shade because you feel neglected. Join the party, drop the judgment and open your eyes to an approach that you should have started yesterday.
Truth #1 – They Speak with Purpose
Lebron James, Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, and Beyoncé all have something in common – they speak with a purpose. Rarely, if ever do you hear them tout about their intelligence, talent, or success, unless someone challenges them – Lebron.
The same goes for likable people. This special bunch has no interest in exhausting themselves in verbiage to look better because their confidence doesn’t call for it.
Rather, this group opts to focus on conversation with substance, not frivolity. To them a few good impactful words will go much further than a 30-minute dialogue that no one will remember the next day.
Truth #2 – They Toss the Agenda
A common characteristic of likable people is the lack of judgment they carry. Approaching every situation like a blank canvas, they let those around them complete the work of art.
And they love it that way, for the simple fact that the element of surprise is what grinds their gears.
Truth #3 – They Work the Room
Not to be confused with those fishing for something better, likable people are pros at making themselves available to anyone at any given moment. They are the hosts at a party that will bring together people with comment interests. These are the charismatic souls who can spot the lonely bunch and make them feel no less than anyone in the room.
Pleased with their very lifestyle likable people thrive on inclusiveness, even if this means setting aside their happiness so others can relish in the joy.
Truth #4 – They Proceed with Humor
Personally, some to the most successful people I’ve come across have the best sense of humor. Quite often you will find them in a social setting blending in, trading serious conversation for reminiscing and belly laughs.
Subconsciously, likable people understand that laughter is a great way to break the ice and ease into conversation. You don’t have to be a stand-up comedian or life of the party. A simple display of laughter shows you’re human and make you more approachable.
Truth #5 – They Make Others Happy
Don’t get me wrong, likable people are not invincible and every day is not a cakewalk. However, they know there’s a place and time for everything.
In the presence of company, they remain cognizant that no moment is ever repeated so it’s best to make the best of it.
It’s the small things, the details and idiosyncrasies the people remember about them at the end of the day.
Bring it all together and without realizing or trying, their impact is always greater than intended.
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