Victim blaming is a problem that we’re all responsible for.
Phone hacks and leaked photos may be the dark side of our technology but it’s our attitudes that are problematic. Writer Clementine Ford has made a public stand against one morning show for their victim blaming.
Ford writes, “when Channel 7’s Sunrise asks ‘when will women learn’ instead of ‘why do men continue to view women as objects they can defile and violate while the world watches and tut tuts,’ they are victim blaming.”
This is the same thing we’re trying to stop when we talk about rape victims. We teach our children not to blame victims for the way they dress, so why is this different? “You sent that photo to one person so clearly it’s your fault it was posted online.”
“What do you know, it turns out that I actually think we should act as if men are better than that.”
So do I. So what can we do about it? We can share Ford’s image and her story. And we can challenge others who share similar opinions.
I’ll talk to my kids about the dangers technology can lead to. And I’ll warn them about sharing intimate photos with people. But if something terrible like this happens I won’t blame them.
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