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Many of us find ourselves on a seemingly endless quest to become better people, whether this is because we long for admiration from others or simply because we feel morally obliged to constantly grow and improve. However, it’s hard to know precisely what we should be aiming for. What makes a great man great – and how do we become great ourselves? In this article, we’ll look at some of the key qualities that will help you on the road towards self-improvement.
Respect
One of the most important facets of a man’s personality is his ability to genuinely respect others. It’s vital to always keep in mind that – though you may be more skilled or talented than others in some specific fields – there will always be more to learn from those around you. Take time to study the impressive, attractive and interesting qualities of others; not in order to emulate them but simply to admire them for what they are. Try this doubly hard for people to whom you take an initial dislike. You may end up with a new appreciation of them.
Emotional Intelligence
Gone are the days when men were encouraged to vie for the position of leader in all situations, to take the responsibility for the survival of an entire family unit onto his shoulders and to push all sensitivities to the back of his mind. Now we understand these attitudes to be unhealthy and liable to do damage to one’s mental health and relationships. The modern man’s strength comes in the form of his emotional intelligence; his ability to reject harmful attitudes, communicate his feelings and listen to those of others. Once you learn to do this truthfully, you’ll be more mentally resilient, more reliable and easier to love. Try to be someone your friends and loved ones feel comfortable confiding in. It takes a lot for a person to open up emotionally and it’s an honor to be the one with whom they choose to speak when this happens. You don’t always have to help – just listen.
The Pursuit of Potential
Try to accept your strengths and embrace the things you truly enjoy. These may not be typically masculine things, but that doesn’t matter. Excelling at something will always make you impressive, no matter what that thing is. Try to pursue your specific skills as far as you can. If you’re particularly organized or good with numbers, for example, why not sign up for a Master of Business (MBA) degree with the goal of starting your own company? There’s no need to financially cripple yourself in the pursuit of your ambitions – particularly in terms of education. Numerous MBA loans are available to help you on your way.
The Ability to Accept and Move On
Men don’t have to be fighters. In fact, you’ll find yourself in many situations where defiance, violence and inflexibility will do far more harm than good. Bad things happen. It’s the way of the world. Sometimes, you can do something about those things. If you find yourself in a position to make a change, do it peaceably, proactively and positively. If there’s nothing you can do, don’t lash out. Bad luck, mistakes, and failures are simply part of life. Those who argue, attack and refuse to take responsibility for their actions will stay stuck in a rut. Those who accept and learn from them are able to grow into more rounded, resilient, capable people.
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Brought to you by Justin Weinger.
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