Being a man, is a state to which most males strive for, who said chivalry is dead? Being a man also can be misunderstood as to the other important roles like being a loving husband, and being a responsible father. These days, with family law playing major causes for children not having equal parenting orders, the outcome is a fatherless, delinquent society.
Dads are wanted, every child needs that spontaneous energy that does not antagonize the motherly care. But statistics show that in early childhood behavior, the dad’s involvement at a young age, teaches important lessons with social pressure, performance anxiety, and improved self-esteem. As it is a challenge for young men to follow a strong lead, the impact on a young fatherless girl can lead to a negative perception of men, and relationship issues at a later stage.
Technology has brought families a lot closer. Even with a touching article on this blog (goodMenProject.com), by Terry Cornick, exemplified the value of face-timing the child at 3:00pm, before the father’s ride home on the bus, did wonders to keep the relationship in check, and healthy with substance. In previous commentary, it has been a synopsis of the average father “checking out” of the parental responsibilities because of the inconvenience, and partially due to the laws not enabling the equal parenting benefits that may lead to a nation of fewer juvenile delinquents.
Being a man has its obstacles, putting all the different expectations into perspective. It does come across as a role that is going to be tested (particularly being a good father way more outweighs the good husband part). And if the judgment of incompetence leaves the single parent in a precarious burden, one only hopes that if the divorce rate keeps going up like it is, that the children are factored into the hard decisions of sole custody or shared custody for the success of the youth in this nation.
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