Mike Reynolds has two girls. People often wonder if he is desperate to have a boy. So, he decided to write a list to see why he might need one.
It’s funny the small moments that can set you off on a thought tangent that ends with me writing out a List of Things I Can’t Do Because I Only Have Daughters. This moment began a while ago when, with my girls at McDonalds, we were asked if we’d like the boy or girl toy with our Happy Meal.
“Boy toy,” I answered to a puzzled look because I was obviously with girls yet for some strange reason still asking for Boy Toys. “For both of them please.” The toy was a chipmunk on a surfboard or something and my girls wanted them. The puzzled look got me thinking, which rarely ends in fewer than 300 words.
Then, over the next couple of months, I was asked fairly regularly why we wouldn’t want more kids than just the two girls. “Surely you’d like to have a boy as well,” was the common sentiment of both other men and women.
“Nope, my girls are just perfect.”
And it was after a few of those instances (not that they happen every day but there have been almost two handfuls of times this has happened) that I said, “I’m going to create a List of Things I Can’t Do Because I only Have Daughters and see if there really is something I’m missing.”
Here it is. The List of Things I Can’t Do Because I only Have Daughters:
1. Get peed on by a penis while changing a diaper.
2. Say “hi son, how did you sleep?”
The list was coming along pretty good. I had two really good examples and I was thinking about a third kid. That’s as far as I got. The rest of the list looked like:
3. Play baseball.
4. Play hockey.
5. Wear blue clothes.
6. Be happier than I’ve ever been in my life.
7. Buy toys from the Boys section of a toy store.
8. Play with toy cars.
9. Raise someone I can consider my friend and one day have a beer with.
10. Like anything performed by Taylor Swift. (Ok, that’s one I can’t do.)
Funnily enough, on occasions we’ve played with Boy Toys, my girls have seemed eerily happy, as if they had no idea the toys they were playing with weren’t suitable for them. It’s as if, shocking I know, they didn’t care that adults at one point in time determined cars were for boys and ponies for girls.
Playing with Boy Toys then got me thinking that there are things traditionally targeted at girls that we were also supposed to avoid. So I started another List of Things I Can’t Do Because I Only Have Daughters. See, when I start thinking I have a hard time stopping:
1. Girls can’t play with Barbies.
2. Girls can’t play with Disney princesses.
The reasoning—I’ve heard—is that if girls do those things they will develop negative and unrealistic body issues from Barbie and will expect to be rescued, I think, by Prince Charming if they play with Disney princesses.
We’ve played with both. And we’ve worn pink. The girls, even after playing with Disney princesses show a propensity to use their own brains and do thing for themselves. And then they move on to a Boy Toy.
Most certainly our loose-reigned parenting will catch up to us one day. Our girls will want to wear jeans out in public because of a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle toy or they’ll want to wear a dress out in public because of a Little Mermaid toy.
And of course, they’ll be as happy as they seem to be today because of it.
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