As parents, we’re supposed to set the example for our children on a variety of things, but especially how to behave and how to treat other people. Being a parent (should) push each of us to be the best version of a human.
If that’s the case, why do we constantly judge other parents? Don’t deny it. We both know it happens. Sometimes intentionally. Sometimes unintentionally.
Did she really wear that to the class party?
Why is that kid always running so late?
Do they not discipline in their house?
Why is that kid doing that?
It’s a litany of nonsensical judgement in our minds. Occasionally spewed out of our mouths, to ourselves or whoever is nearest. But, here’s the thing guys: it’s a double edged sword. We judge other parents on a loop in our minds. Which then makes us constantly worry about other people judging us. It is that simple.
We spend so much energy and mental space worrying about what other people think of us as parents. Can you imagine what we could accomplish if we freed up that mental space and energy?
At the same time, I want to remind each of us that our kids our watching us. They pick up on things we don’t often realize. From our body language to the simplest of language. They may not understand it as judging, but they see it happening. And they begin to mirror it. As parents, we correct when we see them start to judge others. How effective do you think that correction is when our kids see us continue to do it?
Being a parent is hard enough without the added weight of parent on parent judgement. We have to do better for ourselves. For our sanity as parents. For our kids.
Let’s set a better example.
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