Naturals are the smoothest operators when it comes to first dates.
They never make silly errors to spoil the vibe because they naturally know what to do.
Meanwhile, the rest of us have to learn from our mistakes.
This guide should help. It features 11 moves that naturals never make on a first date.
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1. Naturals Never Make Dates Sound Like A Big Deal
A date might be a big deal for you, but it’s counterproductive to show it.
This makes it look like you rarely hang out with beautiful women. It puts too much pressure on the woman you’re asking, as if you have all these expectations you’re hoping she’ll fill. In this situation, she’ll most likely get nervous and flake.
When a natural asks someone out, it will usually sound casual as hell. They might not even call it a ‘date’. This makes it easier for women to accept their invitation, relax and have a good time.
Honestly, naturals rarely make anything a big deal. They’re smooth, calm and collected no matter what BS a woman throws at them. This helps to set a seductive vibe on a date.
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2. Naturals Never Shake Hands
A date is about flirting and seducing each other. Shaking hands is the antithesis of that.
There’s nothing romantic about a handshake. It’s too formal. It’s too friendly.
Naturals are confident enough to say hi with a hug or a kiss on the cheek. From there, they may lead their date to the venue by the hand. This sets the tone for the rest of the date.
The fear of getting too physical too quickly paralyzes a lot of guys, but this is a tightrope you have to walk. A first date without any physicality rarely leads to a second one.
The guide below explains what most naturals already know about getting to the first kiss and beyond.
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3. Naturals Never Invite Women To The Movies
Any venue where it’s too loud to talk to each other is not good for a first date.
Naturals understand this. That’s why they never take women to the movies, a rock concert or even a rowdy bar. It’s almost impossible to build a connection in places like these.
You’ll certainly never catch them taking women to a nightclub. That’s like throwing your fish back into the ocean.
Simple dates where you have space, peace and privacy are the most seductive.
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4. Naturals Never Try To Impress Their Date
There’s a popular narrative that first dates are about men impressing women. You’ll see that on TV and in the movies all the time. Sweet and shy guys pulling out all the stops to woo their long-time crush. Maybe they’ll buy flowers or organize a romantic surprise.
But naturals understand this isn’t seductive.
Deep down, women want to have to work to impress you. She wants to be unsure whether she can have you. That’s an honest signal of a top-tier guy.
When you work too hard to impress her, it communicates you’ve already been won over. It gives her no space to chase you. It makes her feel like she’s better than you — and women never want to date down.
A natural will be funny, charismatic and flirtatious on a date, but not to impress his beau. That’s just who he naturally is all the time.
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5. Naturals Don’t Treat Their Date Differently To Anyone Else
If a woman crosses a natural’s boundaries, he’ll call her out on it. If she tells an awful joke, he’ll tease her.
He’s not treating her like royalty, like nice guys do.
This helps to maintain the frame that she has to work to win him over too. And that’s what women want deep down.
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6. Naturals Don’t Mention Other Guys
“So, how’s Bumble been treating you?”
This has to be one of the worst questions you can ask your date.
It’ll remind her of all the other cute guys in her DMs, some of whom she’s hoping will text her back soon.
Or it’ll bring back memories of the players who charmed her, had their way with her then never called her back.
This never leads to a positive conversation and does nothing to make her more attracted to you.
Naturals are too smart to bring up ex-boyfriends or casual partners on a first date for the same reason.
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7. Naturals Avoid Interview Mode
Regular guys hear it’s attractive to be a ‘great listener’.
So, they ask questions and try to let their date talk as much as possible.
This can backfire for two main reasons.
Firstly, it can sound like a job interview or an interrogation. Secondly, she’ll finish the date barely knowing anything about you.
Naturals aren’t afraid to talk about themselves. They want their date to discover how interesting and charismatic they are. At the same time, they’ll never sound like they’re selling themselves.
A 50/50 conversational balance is ideal.
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8. Naturals Avoid Logical Mode
Women experience attraction emotionally, not logically.
If a conversation becomes too serious, the butterflies in their stomach begin to die.
It’s best to keep your conversations light-hearted and fun on dates. Naturals are masters at throwing in jokes, teases or flirtatious comments when the moment calls for it.
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9. Naturals Never Get Nervous On A Date
They’ve done it before, maybe a hundred times.
They understand that women are just humans who sneeze, fart and wear silly socks at Christmas. They know that if this date doesn’t work out, there’ll be another one eventually.
Adopt that mentality and you’ll find it easier not to freeze up on first dates too.
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10. Naturals Never Give Away Their Hand
Women want their first dates to be like blockbuster movies. They want ups and downs. They like the “will we, won’t we”. They’d rather not be able to predict the climax.
So, even if a natural is falling head over heels for his date, he’ll keep his cards close to his chest.
He’ll give her some compliments and flirt physically, but maybe he’ll also tease her a little bit.
If he invites her back to his place, he’ll give an innocent reason to join him there. Even if both parties know they want to hook up, this helps to maintain the mystery until the final scene.
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11. Naturals Never Make A Woman Feel Cheap
The innocent reason stops a woman from feeling like a hussy when they go back to his apartment. If they do have sex, it allows them to themselves that ‘one thing led to another’ and it just happened.
A natural won’t make a woman feel cheap after hooking up either. He’ll talk with her in bed for a while. He’ll prepare her some food and make sure she gets home safe. He’ll do what he can to stop her feeling like another notch on the bedpost. And that does a lot to make her desire a second date.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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