11 Unconventional Tips to Ensure She Has an Unforgettable First Date

Most mainstream dating advice for men is terrible.

If you perform a Google Search for ‘first date tips’, you’ll find articles suggesting men should take women to an expensive restaurant, ask lots of questions, wear nice cologne etc.

In most cases, these tips aren’t going to make a difference to whether a woman has a great time.

That’s why I was keen to share these 11 unconventional tips that will actually inspire a woman to want to see you again.

1. Don’t Make It Seem Like A Big Deal

When you make a first date seem like a big deal, a woman will feel pressured.

When a woman feels pressured, she can’t relax or enjoy herself.

The way you invite her plays a big role here. Do so with as few words as possible and try not to look too nervous about her response.

Your choice of first-date venue is important too. A cafe or bar is more casual than a fancy five-star restaurant — and will help her to have more fun.

2. Have The Date Walking Distance From Your House

When you do this, it’s going to be easier for her to agree to come back with you.

Here, it’s possible for you to develop a stronger physical connection — and that’s what makes a first date truly memorable for both parties (even if mainstream publications will never admit it).

3. Flirt

If she’s got dressed up and bothered to meet you, the least you can do is flirt with her.

It’s not gentlemanly to politely sit on the date and not even try to make a move.

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If you do this, she’s either going to think you’re not into her or you’re a coward. Either way, she won’t be excited to see you again. The best result you can expect is that she says you should just be friends.

You can flirt verbally and physically. In both cases, you should start small, see how she responds and escalate if she reacts well.

This video explains how to do it.

4. Sit Next To Her

Ideally, you’ll turn up to the date early so you can find a spot to sit next to each other. This will make it easier to flirt physically.

Sitting opposite each other at a table feels too formal and makes it awkward for you to touch each other at all.

5. Screen Her

Mainstream media will tell you to spoil her, compliment her and do whatever else you can to impress her.

It’s actually better to use the date as an audition to see if she can impress you.

Make a list of personality traits you’d want your ideal girlfriend to have, then ask questions that subtly reveal whether your date has them. It will encourage a woman to chase your approval and qualify herself to you.

Women want to have to fight a little bit to win you over. They want the drama of not knowing whether they can have you. This is more exciting for them than knowing they could sleep with you whenever they like.

6. Make Assumptions, Don’t Ask Questions

First dates have a habit of turning into interviews.

You’re both getting to know each other and this can lead you to asking the same questions she’s heard on dozens of dates beforehand.

That’s not great if you’re trying to stand out as being better than these previous guys.

An easy way to avoid this is to make a playful assumption about the thing you want to know, rather than asking her.

“What’s your favorite nightclub in the city?” can turn into “you look like the type of woman who goes to XYZ bar every weekend…”

This will spark her interest, because everyone is curious about how they’re perceived by other people.

Most likely, she’ll ask why you made that assumption and now you’re in an engaging and unique conversation.

This is a great tactic to capture the interest of a woman you’ve just met at a bar as well.

7. Tease Her

Yes, you can compliment a woman on a first date, but if you’re only positive about her, the date becomes predictable.

It’s better to playfully tease her if she says something silly, or likes something that you don’t.

This is fun and it signals you’re comfortable in her presence.

What’s more, it creates a seed of doubt in her mind about whether she can have you — and this sparks the excitement that women really want deep down.

8. Don’t Filter Yourself

Some men focus too much on not making a mistake that ruins the first date.

In doing so, they stick with safe conversation topics and prevent themselves from revealing any quirks of their personality.

This makes you boring and forgettable in a woman’s eyes.

It’s better not to filter yourself. If a joke or story pops up that you would tell your best buddies, tell her!

Some women won’t vibe with your personality, but others will LOVE it. This is better than playing it safe and every woman thinking you’re ‘kind of OK’.

9. Have An Innocent Reason To Go Back To Your Place

I already mentioned it. Taking a woman back to your place is the best way to ensure an unforgettable first date.

But you don’t want to suggest “let’s go back to my place and have sex!”

This ruins the mystery and makes her feel cheap, so she’ll decline even if she wants to.

It’s better for both of you that you find an innocent excuse to go back to your place. Perhaps you want to show her your dog, enjoy one last glass of wine or play her a song on your guitar.

If she agrees to this, she can tell herself that “one thing led to another” if you do end up sleeping together.

Consider it a white lie that you’re both in on.

If one of you decides to not have sex, that’s fine. Inviting her to your place still helps to build a stronger emotional connection.

10. Go For A Kiss, At The Very Least

This tip is based on my own experiences.

I’ve never landed a second date, after not trying to kiss her on the first one.

I’ve had dates where I tried to kiss a woman and she turned the cheek, but at least these women respected that I had the balls to go for what I wanted. We’d usually kiss later that night or on the second date.

I’ve also had dates where I tried to kiss her and was pleasantly surprised that she kissed me back. A lot of guys can’t spot the signs that a woman likes them, especially if they have low self-esteem.

If a woman doesn’t kiss when you make your move, it doesn’t always mean she hates you. Sometimes, she simply wasn’t ready yet.

If she does hate you, you’ve lost nothing by trying. The video above explains how to build up to a kiss and time it right.

11. Have Fun!

Women get nervous on first dates too!

You can ease these nerves by taking the lead in enjoying yourself and relaxing.

The more fun you have, the more fun she’ll have!

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