3 Reasons Why I Recommend Dating a Medium Writer

I couldn’t help smiling. The last time I went on a date, holding hands was a thing.

I chucked on a shirt, splashed some Paca Rabanne, and sat with my laptop. There she was. She looked even more pretty than her profile picture.

“Hi, there!” She smiled.

My nerves melted. We shared stories, explored questions, and let the hours fly. By the end, I was already looking forward to the next.

This is what it feels like to date someone whose articles you’ve been reading for months. Bizarrely, this only happened because she commented on one of mine.

Up for a new experience? Here are three reasons why I recommend dating a Medium writer.

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1. Medium writers are introspective (and it’s sexy as hell)

I’ve been on dates, and many of them have been disasters. From puking in bins to being tucked into bed, I’ve made mistakes.

This one felt different. There was an instant vibe and so much to explore. She’s thoughtful, ambitious, and as I’ve come to learn about many Medium writers, deeply introspective.

Let me tell you, this is a massive turn on. We jumped into topics and gave away our secrets. Some of this stuff I hadn’t told anyone before.

Lesson learned? If you go with the flow, Medium dates can take you to emotional depths you haven’t visited before.

2. Their voice may delight you

She has a silky, feminine voice, and a tenderness I’ve rarely heard. It’s insanely charming.

“[She had] the kind of voice that the ear follows up and down, as if each speech is an arrangement of notes that will never be played again…” — The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald

According to The Conversation, men are more attracted to women with higher-pitched voices, whilst women prefer deeper tones. The funny thing is, I’ve been reading her work for months, and I’d never considered how she’d sound.

So here’s something to try: The next time you read someone’s work, imagine how they talk and ask yourself if you’d like to hear them speak. If the answer’s yes, jump on a call.

3. I know Medium writers better than my own family

It’s true. I feel more connected to writers like Tim Denning and Jessica Wildfire than my closest family.

The same goes with my Medium date. Her pros are beautiful and elegant, and I can relate to much of her work. She said she feels the same about mine.

Over the two dates, we explored relationships, childhood crushes, and plunged into topics often considered taboo. Nothing was off the table. We were vulnerable and honest, and I felt energised by our conversations, rather than drained.

If you’re seeking something similar, it’s another reason to date a Medium writer.

“Reading is a conversation. All books talk. But a good book listens as well.” — Mark Haddon, Author of The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time.

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Takeaways

If you want to experience conversation like never before, date a Medium writer. The last two have been the best of my life.

How do you do it? Well, she left a comment on one of my articles and I responded back, thanking her. I also invited her to send me an email so we could talk some more. Luckily, she did.

After some back and forth, I asked her out on a virtual date. She agreed, and we then took things to WhatsApp to arrange a date.

There is, however, an elephant in the room.

Distance.

She lives in New York and I live in England. This separation, particularly during a pandemic, is problematic. As a result, we’ve decided to put dating on hold so we don’t want to get too invested and hurt each other.

It’s sad for me to write this. I’ve loved spending time with her.

The thing is, though, I’m so glad we’ve had these two dates — even if we don’t take it further. Our connection has reaffirmed to me that the girl of my dreams is out there, and I now trust the universe has a way of bringing these delights into our lives in the most unexpected ways.

As is often the case, when we’re not looking, things will make an appearance. Dating, from my experience, is no different.

Even if it’s over Zoom.

“The secret to winning any game lies in not trying too hard.” — Tim Ferriss, American Author & Entrepreneur

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This post was previously published on Medium.

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