Do you think your girlfriend might be cheating on you? Unfortunately, I have been in a similar situation. In this story, I will discuss the three signs, which evaded me in the past but appear to be clear red flags when I look back. Before diving deeper into the signs, please ask yourself a question — Are you insecure? Insecure men can often allow their insecurities to translate into their conviction about the infidelity of their girlfriends.
Additionally, if you begin to notice one of these signs on their own for a short period, it is best not to jump to a conclusion. You might see your girlfriend losing interest in you and might want to act accordingly. However, if all the signs are apparent for a while, then the worst is possible.
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Dinner? — Maybe Later
Your girlfriend used to jump at the chance to see you, but now, her calendar is full — she is busy at work, her friend’s birthday is coming up, her family is going on a holiday, and more. If her calendar is super full and you rarely get to see her, then her priorities have changed.
Women who like you and want to be with you will move mountains to see you. If your girlfriend is unable to make time for you anymore, then this might be bad news. She might not be cheating on you just yet, but she is beginning to lose interest, and this could be the beginning of the end for your relationship.
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Intimacy — What Intimacy?
Women are emotional beings. Do you feel if there is an emotional distance between the two of you? If your girlfriend has been emotionally distant, this would also influence your partner’s intimacy and chemistry. Intimacy is a big part of every romantic relationship. Just to be precise — intimacy does not always mean sex. I am talking about the small stuff like that random: how you text, that long hug, holding hands, and much more.
If these little things have diminished, then it does not necessarily mean that they might be cheating but indicate that your partner might be losing interest — time to act fast.
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Details? No Chance
Remember, at the beginning of your relationship, your partner would tell you every little thing. What time did they wake up? What they had for breakfast? And now, all you get are vague and weird responses — they might be hiding something. Consider the two conversations below.
Question — Hey, how was last night?
Reply 1 — It was awesome, I met up with Amanda, and we went out for a few drinks. I had a fried chicken pizza, what about you?
Reply 2 — Good, met up with a few people.
You: Few people?
Her: Yeah, colleagues from work.
Indeed, some women always like to keep their texts short and sweet. However, if you see a clear transition from conversation 1 to 2 overtime, your girlfriend may be hiding details. People who hide details, do it because they think they are doing something wrong — a big red flag.
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What can you do?
There are two factors to consider here. Firstly, your girlfriend might be losing interest, and second, they are unfaithful. In most cases, the loss of interest leads to a breakup. If you feel like your girlfriend is losing interest, you need to take a good look at yourself. Are you doing everything to keep your partner interested? If not, then you need to change your behavior.
However, if your partner is not loyal, then this situation becomes a no brainer. Loyalty and trust are the most critical components of any romantic relationship.
There is no love without trust.
I know a few guys who forgive their partners and move on, this is a big sign of weakness, and women respond to strength. Additionally, a man should value themselves sufficiently to know what they deserve and when to walk away. Remember — you deserve better, and if you don’t think that yet, you need to improve yourself until your value increases in your own opinion. Good Luck.
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This post was previously published on Medium.
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