Nothing lasts forever.
That is life.
Some things don’t last beyond a year, irrespective of how promising they were from the beginning. You can put in your all just to salvage the situation to no avail.
Why?
Because some things are predestined to happen for the greater good.
It might not look bad in the present, but trust me, you will be happy that things went the way they did.
I know someone who vowed that she was going to get married to the first guy she dates. At 25, she eventually accepted one guy.
It was her first and final bus stop. Months into the relationship, the guy started having an affair with someone else, threatening her, physically and emotionally abusing her and making her feel less of herself.
Despite of the toxicity, she did her best to make it work.
She tolerated attitudes she knew were against her values, made compromises for him, and went out of her way to meet his odd needs. Yet, the toxicity in the relationship continued.
One day, she called it a quit.
It was painful letting him go, but she was left with no choice. She was losing her mind over the irritating and destructive nature of her partner.
It took her two years to get over it and find someone else.
Don’t beg anyone to love you
If you beg them now, you will keep begging them to stay in your life.
Begging won’t keep them in marriage.
Begging only encourages the toxic attitude that takes a toll on your mental health, make your life miserable, and in the end, they walk out of the relationship.
If they are not willing to stay, especially when you are doing your best for them, let them go; they were never meant to be in your life.
You deserve better.
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What are the signs your partner is losing interest in and doesn’t want the relationship? Here are three:
1. They don’t check on you anymore
No matter how long you have been with someone, if they still desire you in their lives they will make time for you.
Why communication is the life blood of ANY relationship.
And intimacy builds on being in touch with your love.
How often someone communicates with you tells how much they still want you in their lives. If they love you, they will be in touch, and they will check on you. If they don’t check up, they probably have lost interest in the relationship.
2. They get comfortable breaking boundaries
Every solid relationship has rules.
When a true partner breaks a rule, they sincerely apologize to the other partner. They remorseful for their deed. It shows that they were not intentional about crossing those boundaries and that they are willing to make it up to their partner and right their ways.
On the other hand, when they don’t feel the need to keep the relationship, there is little need to be remorseful. They cross your boundaries.
It is a sign that they are losing interest in making the relationship work.
- If they have they cheated and tried to defend it; feel less remorseful when you catch them red-handed with another girl; then you need to be concerned.
The truth is, they don’t care about making the relationship work.
Please do not beg for their commitment.
You don’t need it.
3. They repeat the behavior that hurt you
Hurting someone you love feels bad.
This is because to an extent, you become one flesh with your partner. What affects them affects you. You feel their pain when they are hurt and you feel joyful when they are happy.
But when they are no longer interested in the relationship, the table turns. they are numbed and insensitive to your emotions.
They become selfish and careless about.
For that reason, they keep on with the behaviors that hurt you and take the relationship on the path to failure.
Read the handwriting on the wall
They are no longer interested in keeping the relationship. But they don’t know how to say it, and can’t hide it in their attitudes and behavior.
Read the handwriting on the wall and save your time, energy, and precious resources for someone else who deserves it.
Cry if you feel like it, but don’t do it in other to make them stay.
Nothing can keep someone in your life when they are no longer interested. And you shouldn’t keep them against their wishes because their leaving might be for your good.
Remember this.
When you cease to be a priority in their lives, don’t force things to happen. If they are not interested, there is little you can do to help the situation.
Believe me.
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Thank you.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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