3 Ways Women Like to Be Approached

Women are actually not as complicated as some relationship “gurus” explained them to you.

Let’s clear the air!

Approaching them isn’t as hard and complicated as you think. Women love to be approached by men too.

When a man approaches a woman it makes her feel beautiful. That’s not all it also :

It sparks excitement
Boosts her self esteem
Make her feel seen and validated

In that moment you’re not just another guy, you’re a guy that likes her and made the move she will appreciate you.

It’s not about your height, wallet or what you say…

It’s about how you do it. It’s about the vibe and the jibe that comes from it. It’s about how you make her feel.

Unfortunately most men approach women like they are asking for approval.

Women want a man who approaches like he already has self-approval. Do you know there are ways women want to be approached?

In their article, I’m going to break down 3 powerful ways women like to be approached and exactly how you should do it:

1. Use Situational Opener

This implies using the current situation she’s or both of you are in as an opener. You may use the weather, the queue, the challenges, tasks, and fun.

Forget about pickup lines, when you use a situation or environment as a leverage to start a conversation, it feels real and natural.

For example:

When you’re both stuck in a coffee shop, smirk and say something like…

Does this coffee actually worth more than liquid gold, for this kind of queue?

If the weather is nice and cool, say something like…

Nice weather, weather for two uhn?

Women are sensitive beings, they know what your agenda is. It’s usually safer to approach them from an observative angle than from a persuasive angle. It’s usually safe and open

2. The Silent Magnet

This means waiting for a woman to notice you or probably be drawn to you before approaching her.

This is mostly for men whose presence easily is noticeable anywhere they go maybe because of their dressing sense, heights, looks or physique.

This approach requires patience and it implies that first impression is form when you enter the room not when you speak.

This will definitely make women see you like something special especially because most men swarm around beautiful women, like bees to honey.

With this approach you’re going to be an alpha man that allows gravity to do its work.

How to use this approach:

Groom and dress properly
Work on the way you walk.
Walk relaxingly not with speed
When you speak let your tone match your relaxed/calm posture.
Don’t laugh at what’s not funny. If you must smile don’t laugh loudly.

This approach make you fake it that you don’t need any woman’s attention. When you act like this, that’s when you will actually get it.

3. The Honest Compliment

Nothing melts the heart like a honest compliment. There’s no one that doesn’t love being complimented.

Please take note, we’re not talking about recycled compliments here. We’re talking about “honest compliments”.

“Hello, you look good” ❌
– “Hey, you’re gorgeous” ❌

…yawn

These compliments are recycled and generic women can smell them from afar.

What I’m saying here is, compliment women in a way that’s honestly, unique and without flattery.

For example:

“I was already on my way, but I figured out I would regret it if I didn’t say “hi”. So what’s up, I’m Jake, and you’re?”

This works because it sounds honest, raw and not polished (it’s natural). That’s not all, it doesn’t require any rehearsal and you’re not seeking any validation.

How to make this work:

Let your body posture be open, not stiff.
Be direct but gently speak with a calm tone.
Let the moment breathe, being silent in between after speaking is not a bad thing. It shows confidence.

If she responds well, build on the opener with open ended questions about her. If it’s otherwise, just smile and leave, you must never beg/apologize or try to explain anything.

Honesty makes you a good human, vulnerability makes you memorable..

Final Thought

Women love men that are good conversationalists…they love men who know themselves and get it. Not men with the best pickup lines.

The way women love to be approached is being unique from other men and being authentic. Stop being generic, have your personal opening line to stand any chance with women.

Women see men that use generic lines or opener as none-promising, un able to give them the vibes they want — women love unpredictability, mystery and challenge. And they want your vibe to be like that too.

Approach her like you will approach a new adventure — let your approach be real, authentic and spark curiosity.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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