Advice for ladies.
Be calm.
Take your time.
Do not succumb to pressure.
Being single is not a crime.
There is no law against being single.
It is neither in any country’s law nor is there a place in the Holy Books that condemn it.
Heartbreaks aren’t something that should keep happening to someone. It can change your outlook about men, love and subsequently negatively affect the future of your relationship.
You will see men as scum and when you eventually see your Mr. Right, you will treat him like another guy who is just there for kisses, sex, romance, and all.
So take your time.
You need time to heal.
Every heartbreak breaks something in you. It could be trust, the will to commit, your idea about men, love and romance, your belief in the concept of love.
You need to heal from whatever has been broken to be fit for another relationship. Until you have healed, keep working on yourself.
Not waiting for the right man. But working on healing from what has been broken. And you need time and intentions to heal completely.
Afterwards, you are in good shape for a new relationship.
If on the other hand you allow the pressure from friends and family, or the fact that you’re not getting any younger push you into a new relationship, here are four things that might happen:
1. You will settle with someone who is not your spec
You might not discover it now but later.
That is the kind of relationship that you will struggle with. You will struggle to introduce him to your friends – because they know your spec and this guy is nothing close to it.
You will be shy to post his pictures or hold hands with him in public. And while you’re with him, you’re not totally him.
You guys will have a lot more issues in the relationship than you can imagine. He will complain about how you treat him as a boyfriend.
And before you know what’s happening, you will stop talking and sooner or later, he moves on to another girl.
To what end?
Isn’t it better to just wait and work on yourself?
Next,
2. Your body count goes up
And you know the bad thing about that, it slowly destroys your reputation as a lady.
It is a small world, the wrong guy who had you laid might just be related to your Mr. Right. And you don’t want to be in that kind of situation.
I have seen women who have been there and I can tell you this, it is one of the most uncomfortable experiences there is.
Always remember, the higher your body count the lower your self esteem and your reputation in this male dominant world.
Please take your time.
The right man is worth waiting for.
Trust me.
Another thing that happens is,
3. You’ll not be happy
Finance is a major aspect of your life.
In that, an above-average financial life insures against finance-related issues in relationships and marriages.
But something happens when you rush into the wrong relationship. It poisons your happiness. For that reason your productivity drops, and your zeal and passion too. And as that happens, you won’t be able to meet the needs of your clients.
And what happens?
Cash inflow diminishes.
As a result, you will be a less happy individual coupled with the headache from the unhealthy relationship.
It can be frustrating.
Last,
4. You will find it difficult to find the right person.
How?
The wrong person in your life repels the right ones from finding you.
Period.
So, take your time.
Don’t succumb to the pressure and allure to get into a relationship when you’re not ready.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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