Good women are hard to find these days.

If you’re fortunate to be with one, you’re very lucky among men.

The next best thing is to get her committed to the relationship towards wifing her sooner or later.

If you let her slip out of your hands, who knows how long it will take to find another one?

Sometimes it can take about 10 years, 20 or even a lifetime to find someone else who complements you physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Losing her will cost you a lot.

You might have to settle for who is available, compromise your happiness, peace of mind and plans all just to achieve a peaceful relationship with another woman who now happens to be the next best option.

A close friend of mine is in that kind of marriage.

He settled for someone else who really was never his spec in a woman. He married her because the pressure from his parents was just too much for him.

At best, he is just enduring the marriage.

Each time we talk, he always reminds me to never make the mistakes he made. The mistake that is costing him happiness till death do them part.

It’s sad.

So don’t let her go.

If you have found the one for you, the next best thing you can do is to get her committed to the relationship. That is the only way to keep her in your life.

Here are four things that inspire a woman’s commitment in a relationship:

1. Preparedness

“I was in awe.

Josh, for one year, I didn’t get myself.

It was still like a dream during the first year!

I found it impossible to accept the reality that she was no longer my girlfriend but another man’s wife.

We met in medical school and started dating.

We planned how I was going to see her parents when I start my residency programme, engage her that same year, get married, have kids and leave the country after my programme.

After our internship, she went to see her parents.

We chatted every day.

And I constantly reassured her.

Unfortunately, we served in different states.

Two months before we signed out, I logged into my Facebook one day and saw her in wedding clothes. Initially, I thought she was modelling. Later, I saw “wedded” as her new status!

My life crumbled!

I was in shock throughout that week, Josh.

It was the most traumatising experience of my life!”

While what she did was bad, here is one thing you should know about women: they do not have so much time. If you won’t be ready within a certain age bracket, chances are high she will not stay.

So your level of preparedness matters.

If you won’t be ready before she hits 30, then chances are she won’t be committed to that relationship.

If you want her to be committed, ensure you are planning to put a ring on her finger before she hits 29. Anything more is a huge risk she might not want to take.

How ready are you?

Next,

2. Emotional maturity

Especially for women,

Relationships are a serious business.

It comes with making life decisions that could completely change the course of her life forever.

For that reason, she would rather be committed to a man who is emotionally mature and responsible to make better decisions than a playboy who is invested in distractions like having pink lips and clubbing till dawn every week at the expense of planning for the future.

Because she cares how her future turns out, she will be more committed to the first guy because her life is surer with him than with the second guy.

If you want her to take you seriously, prove that you take your life seriously first.

You get it?

Good.

Next,

3. Financial stability

One of the cardinal problems in marriage today is the lack of money or a poor financial situation in the home.

It has caused an unfathomably ugly relationship and life experiences.

There are women who, despite being married, do escort service as a side gig just to keep the family afloat financially. Most often, it is not something they are proud of.

I have seen a few of them.

By all means, women try to stay away from anything that can jeopardise their future like that.

Companionship is another thing.

This is one vital need for women in a relationship.

Unfortunately, for a man who is struggling financially, offering companionship is a luxury he can’t afford. He will be so invested in working extra hours and busy with work deadlines.

This is why many women are quite lonely in their relationships and marriages.

For that reason, she will be more committed to someone who is financially stable than a guy who won’t be in the next 10 years.

Love is blind, but it can’t blind her against that reality.

Last,

4. Being responsible

A woman cares how her kids turn out.

In most cases, even more than fathers do.

And one of the major determinants of a child’s destiny is their dad.

Take ladies who turn out to be escort girls today.

Some of them were victims of daddy issues.

They had a dysfunctional father-child relationship. In their quest to find the love they never got as a child, they fell into the hands of older men who took advantage of them.

That is why a woman will choose a responsible man over another who is not responsible. Because it is not just being a good spouse, she desires a good father for their children.

Work on these areas, and getting her committed won’t be a problem at all. If you can give her an assurance of a great future, she will commit to you and the relationship.

Cheers.