As men, we spend so much of our lives doing what we’re “supposed” to do instead of what we know deep in our hearts is what we should be doing with our lives.
If you watch a highlight video of your life over the last five years, would you be happy with what you saw? Yes there are going to be things every guy regrets, that’s life, but what the major things? Do you wake up every day and spend anytime doing what you love?
Life is hard and there are difficult situations that are out of our control. We have responsibilities to provide for those we love. We are men and we take our lives and leadership seriously. But, life isn’t meant to be a monotonousness routine that has us feeling like we live in the matrix. Life has so much more to offer.
Most of the time we spend from high school to 30 yeas old is spent doing what we feel responsible to do. We don’t think about what we should be doing in those years that could affect the rest of our life. I’m 34 now and regret spending so much of my life existing. Each man has a choice to make and here are five to consider that lead to a life of more than existing.
- Only doing work that fulfills you. Stats tell us that 87% of people hate the work they’re doing. WHY? Yes, we all have bills to pay, but spending 40 plus hours hating what you has a tremendous effect on every other area of your life. It may take years—it too me three—but you can find or create work you love. The Internet and social media have opened doors to opportunities that weren’t previously possible. Use them.
- Maintaining relationships that better your life. Toxic relationships have the power to depress and frustrate our life. The hold us back and convince us life doesn’t have more to offer. If you want to heal and move forward in your life, purge any negative relationships from your life.
- Making your health a priority. What you eat and how active you are also affects other areas of your life. A lack of energy and low self-esteem can be traced to your health. To make big changes in your life, you’ll need energy. Eat right (whatever that means for your body) and exercise regularly. You’ll feel good and have the strength you need for the long journey to freedom.
- Don’t putt off difficult decisions for another day. I have been a procrastinator most of my life. I found it easier to put off what I know I needed to do—I’m guessing I’m not alone. Life is short and before we know it, 30 hits and we have more responsibility than time. Don’t put off the hard choices. Start today to get there sooner.
- Living instead of existing. Truly living will have a different meaning for each of us and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. You have to get honest about what you want from your life. In getting honest, you have to make the choice to act if you’re nit living the kind of life you want to live.
I may be a little pumped after having spent two and a half weeks in Spain and Morocco. In two weeks, I leave for France, Israel, and Egypt. I knew, however, long before these trips that I wanted and could claim more for my life. The death of my father in 2012 was a wake-up call.
It doesn’t have to take a death or extreme circumstance for you to admit what you know deep down inside. When you understand that you have choices to make, it takes away any self-limiting beliefs that could hold you back. I’m not saying that creating this kind of life will be easy, but I promise you that it’s worth it.
No matter what age you are, you can make choices today that lead to the kind of life you truly want to live. You can start a journey to create freedom in every area of your life. I hope you’ll believe in what’s possible and do something about it.
What choices are you making that lead to a life of truly living?
Photo: Flickr/ Luis Sarabia