5 Compliments Men Can’t Seem to Resist

The Power of the Right Compliment

The right compliment at the right time is one of the most powerful ways to build attraction. And the best thing about compliments is that you are in control of them.

They don’t involve you waiting around for somebody else to notice you. Compliments are the opposite.

And in a world where our social muscles have atrophied through phone addiction and far less people are willing to be brave about approaching someone in real life, it’s nice to have a tool in your belt that enables you to both bridge the gap between you and another person and build attraction at the same time.

In this article, I’m going to talk about why compliments work, why they are especially powerful when they’re used with men, and the five compliments that thousands of men revealed had the biggest impact on them, the ones they couldn’t forget.

How Compliments Relate to Attraction

So, what is it about compliments and how do they relate to attraction? Let me explain very briefly a formula I have been talking about for over a decade, the attraction formula.

There are four parts to deep and lasting attraction. chemistry, perceived value, perceived challenge, and connection.

Now, I don’t have time to go into all of these, but I want to explain how compliments relate to three of the parts of the attraction formula.

Compliments and Chemistry

The first one is chemistry.

Have you ever noticed that when someone says something nice about you or that you know someone likes you in some way or thinks highly of you, when they step into a room from that point forward, they’re on your radar in a different way?

It’s like they show up more brightly when they walk into a room because they’ve noticed you. So, when we give a compliment to somebody else, we’re putting ourselves on their radar in a way that makes us shine more brightly to them.

Chemistry can actually arise out of discovering someone think something positive about us.

Compliments and Connection

Compliments also create connection. When we compliment someone in a way that makes them feel genuinely seen, that creates deep connection. So, we’re going to talk about this.

The best compliments really make people feel like you see them in a way that other people don’t.

Compliments and Perceived Value

And the third part of the attraction formula that compliments relate to is perceived value.

When people feel seen by us and they feel their worth, their value is recognized by us, especially when it’s the deeper value they have that they’re not usually seen for, you become special to them.

Why Compliments Hit Men So Deeply

Now, before we get into the five compliments that men said were unforgettable to them, why is it that compliments have such an impact on men in particular?

So, because the average man isn’t used to getting them. When you read comments from men talking about the times they were complimented, they’ll often say something like, “It’s not the words, it’s that she noticed.” One guy said,

“I can remember every genuine compliment I have ever gotten from a woman. There’s only about five.”

That’s how rare it is for so many men. And the comments from women back this up. One woman said,

“My male co-worker teared up when I said he had great leadership energy.”

He said,

“No one has ever said that to him.”

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Men Want to Feel Seen and Appreciated

One of the most common misconceptions about men is the idea that looks are all that matter to them.

Now, that’s going to be true of a certain brand of man, don’t get me wrong, but there’s a huge number of men who value something even greater, and that is feeling seen, feeling special, and feeling accepted.

In fact, they value it so much that when they feel these things, it can leave an indelible mark on them.

I think what’s undervalued right now is the male urge to feel needed, wanted, and appreciated.

Why Men Are Doing the Work

And the ironic thing is, I think this is partly responsible for fueling an explosion in male influencer podcasts, YouTube channels, and men’s group.

Whether it’s voices showing men how to be resilient and disciplined, creating a space where they feel unjudged for the innermost thoughts that they didn’t think they could voice out loud, or it’s those who are blending emotional intelligence with traditional masculinity.

All of these voices speak to either the male desire to learn what they can do to become worthy of love or a desire to be understood and accepted for who they already are and what they’re dealing with.

I have spent a career hearing women say to me,

“Where are the men who are doing the work?”

And I tell them,

“There are millions of them, but you’re not seeing it because the work they’re doing rarely looks like the kind of work that you’re doing.”

How Men Often Feel Invisible

What’s interesting to me about all of this is understanding why men are doing all of this work in the first place.

While there’s a lot of messaging in society about women feeling invisible, especially as they get older, there’s less talk about how invisible and unseen men can feel, how much they worry they don’t match up to other men or to what they believe women want from men in general.

Men may not be great at being vulnerable, but in truth, they feel more vulnerable than they ever have.

The Five Compliments Men Never Forget

Okay. So, what did men say when asked, “What are the compliments that meant the most to you? The ones you couldn’t forget.” We have aggregated data from several Ask Men, Ask Women, and relationship threads on Reddit, spanning thousands of comments.

And here is what consistently emerges as the top five compliments that men say mean the most to them, ranked by emotional impact.

Compliment #1: “You Make Me Feel Safe”

The first and most impactful compliment that men said they received is you make me feel safe. In fact,try this with a guy around you. You say to a man,

“I feel so safe whenever I’m around you.”

Just saying that to a guy makes him feel like Superman.

Now, why is this compliment so powerful? Because it speaks to some very basic male instincts. the desire to protect and provide through emotional safety, not through dominance, but through a kind of gentleness and a strength that you are feeling.

So, it both makes him feel strong and like he’s having a really positive impact on you at the same time.

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Compliment #2: “I Really Respect How You Handled That”

The second compliment men said is

“I really respect how you handled that.”

Now, this one hits at a man’s sense of character. It says,

“I noticed your integrity in action.”

It affirms competence, judgment, emotional maturity, qualities that men often define themselves by it, but rarely get credit for. But Why is this compliment so powerful?

This is because respect is like oxygen for so many men. When it’s genuine respect, not differential, but discerning, it can make a guy feel seen as capable and honorable.

Compliment #3: “You Have Such a Calming or Grounding Energy”

The third compliment that men said meant the most to them was,

“You have such a calming or grounding energy.”

This validates men being, not doing. It shows him that his presence is powerful for you. He changes the room just by being in it.

One guy said,

“When a woman told me my energy made her feel calm, I felt seen in a way I never had. It wasn’t about how I looked or what I did. It was about who I was.”

Men are used to getting noticed when they perform or when they get results. But this compliment says, “You matter even when you’re not performing.”

Compliment #4: “You’re Really Thoughtful”

Fourth compliment that men said meant the world to them. You’re really thoughtful. His attention to your needs, his empathy, the little things he does without being asked.

I know that this is a difficult one for a lot of women to hear because you’re like, I wish there were more guys who were thoughtful. I’m I’m dealing with guys who are the complete opposite.

I totally understand that and I’m not suggesting that you give this compliment in situations where it’s unearned. There is such an importance to the sincerity of these compliments.

But for guys who actually do these things, showing that you see them for the things they do and making them feel appreciated, that is like water in a desert to guys who are used to doing things and them not being noticed.

Compliment #5: “I Love the Way You Think”

Well, one guy for sure found that to be the most powerful compliment they’d ever received. Really? Just one guy. Be honest. Okay. The real number five that thousands of men said is, “I love the way you think.”

That feeling of being admired for the way that I see things or connect ideas or express myself.

That idea of someone saying to you, “Your perspective fascinates me.”

Um, so yes, gentlemen, I concur. If you’re a guy here, let me know in the comments which of these five would be your favorite. Let us know what’s your favorite compliment you’ve ever received.

And if you’re a woman in the comments, what is a compliment you’ve given someone that meant the world to them that I haven’t mentioned in this article?

Please, Let me know.

I’ll see you next time.

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