You got into a new relationship and are so happy and excited that you forgot everything else. You only want a text or call from your boyfriend/girlfriend. And you don’t notice but make many mistakes in that excitement that you could avoid.
And it’s essential to be conscious of your actions in a new relationship because a new relationship is much more vulnerable than an established one. In an established relationship, you know each other very well and your partner’s strengths and flaws.
But a new relationship is like a dark room. Neither you know your partner nor your partner knows you very well. So you don’t know which action can annoy your partner.
So, here are five mistakes to avoid in a relationship. And if you can avoid these mistakes, your relationship might last longer than your previous one.
- Sharing too much too soon know how it feels to be in a new relationship. Those goosebumps and positive vibes you get from your partner make you feel that you should share everything with your partner and that your partner should share everything with you so that you both can know each other well. But, the thing is, you are at the point where you and your partner are kind of strangers to each other and don’t know much about your partner, and hence you start revealing your secrets that might ruin your relationship. It would be best if you kept those secrets until your relationship reached maturity.
- Being too available As I have already mentioned, in a relationship, you wait 24/7 for any call or message from your partner. Of course, this happens with men; most of the time, they are available too much to show how much they love and care about their partners. But trust me, that’s not like you think. Being too available creates a wrong image in your partner’s mind that you have nothing to do and you do not have any goals in your life. And worse, you are destroying your self-respect and self-value. You might know that value is directly proportional to the supply. So if you are available too much, your value in your partner’s eye will decrease eventually.
- Frequent social media posts This is the age of social media. And we love to share everything on social media, whether it is food, trip, relationship, etc. But we forget one thing there are a lot of things that mean to us, not the followers. A relationship, especially new, is a private affair, and there’s no need to post frequently about it on social media. So, try to avoid these things and balance social and real-life life. You need to understand that everything you do is not a public matter. If it’s private, keep it private.
- Getting insecure Insecurity is a slow poison for relationships. And one day, it eventually kills your relationship. These days, girls proudly share that girls have the right to be insecure and that they genuinely love their partners. It might be suitable to some extent, but don’t you think it has a flip side? For example, you love your partner, that’s great, but don’t you think it shows that you don’t trust your partner? You should ask yourself, if the same questions of insecurity are raised against you, then will you be able to tolerate those questions? The answer is quite simple, you won’t tolerate it, and that’s normal. After all, only a stupid can tolerate his character assassination. So, avoid assassinating your partner’s character, and don’t let your insecurity ruin your relationship.
- Ignoring major differences It is often advised to avoid differences and focus on similarities. But everything has a limit. For example, morning and evening cannot happen at once. Similarly, two people with significant differences cannot stay together. At first, you might be able to work through differences, but there will be a time when these differences will start making your lives worse than hell. So, don’t avoid any significant differences if you want to live happily in the future.
Starting a new relationship is love, fun, and exciting. And people often make mistakes when they are excited. Unfortunately, many people make silly mistakes that end their relationship before it starts.
I hope you enjoyed reading this article, and I’m sure this article will help you a lot in establishing your new relationship.
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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