It’s been a year since I have been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend and during this period I learned more about life and myself than my entire existence in this world.
I want to share 5 things I learned from my relationship that might help you as well.
1. Silence is your biggest enemy
I am an introvert by birth. I always find it difficult to share disagreements, make confrontations, or just simply share an opinion.
Every time we fought over something, I became silent. Did not utter a single word. This led to even more fighting.
It took me sometime to realize that it is better to speak out and resolve the issue in the moment rather than keeping it inside and burn out my brain and heart.
My girlfriend is just opposite of me. She wears her heart on her sleeve. I like that about her. Slowly and steadily I am breaking my habit of being silent.
2. Ego can destroy beautiful things
I have been an egoist as long as I can remember. For me it has always been difficult to consider what others want specially if it is something I do not like.
I remember, once She and I went to a fair. She insisted for a ride on Ferris Wheel. I declined over and over again because of my childhood fear.
She became upset. Later, I felt bad for not considering her wish. She just wanted to have fun and build some memories with me.
From that day, I became more considerate about her wishes and I accept I am having more fun in life than ever.
3. Do not hang onto past, let it go
I had a habit of getting stuck on the things even when they do not have any substance.
A comment, a gesture, or maybe a secret not shared.
Thinking about stuff from past will do no good. It only hampers mental peace. Try to focus on present, on good things.
4. Small efforts go a long way
When we are in a relationship we think we need to put big efforts to make our partner happy.
Expensive gifts, fine-dining, luxury travels…
But the truth is — if your partner truly wants to be with you they will be happy even with small things like:
flowers, love letters, pizza, chocolate, dance, hugs, sunsets, music.
5. Trust is everything
My girlfriend always says, “Do whatever you want, I am not going to leave you, except when you cheat on me”.
There are times when we all get paranoid, creating unrealistic scenarios in mind.
But we need to trust our partner, trust ourself. Every healthy relationship works on the foundation of trust.
Ending Note
Although I am new in the world of serious relationships, I learned a lot of things about love and life in past one year.
All thanks to my amazing girlfriend.
The key to a happy relationship is to accept our imperfections and being flexible enough to adapt.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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