6 Things on Women’s Dating Profiles That Scream a Hard Pass

Getting back into the dating scene can be daunting, especially after a long absence from this environment.

I’m frankly out of touch.

I don’t know what works and what doesn’t.

I might be old-fashioned but some things look weird in women’s dating profiles. I don’t know if my 4-year absence from these apps has changed them so much, but others have also told me about these annoyances.

I wrote another article on what makes a woman’s tinder profile a turn-off for men, but the following things shout danger!

And to be clear, the following concerns apply when the woman’s profile is purely driven by these traits. It’s not just an isolated thing.

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#1 — Weird selfie angles

When you see a profile that only has high or low selfie angles, something strange is going on.

Think about it. It’s a very difficult angle to shoot. It takes more effort to set it up. It’s not just a random pic.

Why go into such trouble?

They’re just showing one very distorted picture of themselves. It personally makes me worried that they’re trying to hide something about their looks.

Women know they’ll eventually have to go out with the guy — so maybe they’re just delaying the inevitable. If that is true, the secrecy doesn’t do any good for anybody. People will often be disappointed because they create marvelous fantasies in their minds that nobody can ever meet.

A lack of transparency from the start doesn’t make the woman trustworthy. And it goes both ways. Men will also be seen as dishonest in that same situation.

If you are being creative and artistic and want to stand out, why not just have those pictures alongside normal ones?

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#2 — Very few details about themselves

Whether the profile has just one photo or it has little to no bio, red flags arise rapidly.

First, it can be a scam. There are plenty of those.

And if it’s not a scam, why are women making it more difficult for people to learn about them?

How do they expect to match with a similar-minded person (interests, values, etc.) if there’s nothing to match with?

They make the selection process hard and less accurate:

What do I base my swipe on?
How do I increase the odds of a good match if there’s so much lack of information on their part?

Why does it have to be an “if you show me your cards I’ll show you mine” attitude?

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#3 — A messy background

When you upload a picture be aware of what else you’re showing in it.

I’ve come across several photos where the woman is portrayed in a bedroom for example while many objects are lying around the floor. Dirty socks, underwear, everything is filthy!

This picture sends a clear message: they’re a mess.

It’s like sending your CV.

A disorganized and untidy resume will never get your foot in the door.

No one wants to go cleaning after another person unless it’s your child. And that’s because you’re responsible for them.

Be aware of the image you project onto others.

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#4 — No picture of herself

This one is the opposite of the last one.

Women show too little or nothing at all.

The most common one is to have pictures of landscapes or one of those old PowerPoint presentations filled with quotes with some random background.

If there’s no image of yourself, it’s an automatic swipe right. Obviously.

Then we have the ones that have a sort of image of themselves.

First, the very pixelated pictures. This is the case when the only profile picture has such a low resolution that it seems it was taken by one of those old decommissioned satellites.

They haven’t put in the slightest effort.

Why should we take an interest?

But then some have several pictures that mask their face. You might find a picture with a heavy light contrast (e.g. the sun is bright from behind while the face is dark), covering her face with the phone or with her back turned completely.

This can be seen as an artistic performance but wouldn’t it be nice if at least one of those pictures showed their face?

There’s a difference between mystery and anonymity, and the latter doesn’t work in a visually driven app.

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#5 — Taking filters to an extreme

I understand why women would want to use filters to enhance their appearance, but it’s another thing when you take it to the extreme.

I’m talking about animal filters. We might see rabbit ears, a dog nose, butterflies on the face, and other similarly ridiculous image enhancements.

They’re alright for a laugh with their friends but when they upload them in their profile it looks childish.

You just have to look at who uses it the most: teenagers.

Do you want to be with a woman with a teenage personality?

This augmented reality is doing more harm than good. There’s even a new type of body dysmorphia because of this:

“Snapchat Dysphoria” a newly surfaced issue where people go to plastic surgeons with filtered selfies and ask to be recreated to match the fantasy image their phone fabricated.” — Sheryl Gould

It’s time to stop this, don’t you think?

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#6 — Strange ways to describe themselves

When you write about yourself in a dating app you’re hoping to attract someone instead of driving them away, right?

Well, it doesn’t always seem to be the case.

What message do the following bios show?

“I’m a little crazy but…”
“I’m complicated although…”
“My mood is like the weather, it changes a lot”
“I’m quite the character, don’t say I didn’t warn you”
“I’m kind of a witch you know”
“I’ve recently been diagnosed with sociopathy so your feelings won’t matter to me on the next day probably” [it’s hilarious but creepy as well]

By describing themselves like this I wonder if they’re trying to get me to like them or despise them from day one.

Don’t you want to show your best image to a potential match? Or at least a balanced one.

Bios like this will generate more rejection than attraction.

And then, not satisfied with presenting a bad image of themselves, certain women will go on to diminish the man as well.