Don’t men and women want the same things out of a relationship? If not, what do men need to know?
Understanding what women want in a man can be a very complicated undertaking.
However, men, I have some good news for you! Woo Hoo! Below are seven revelations that will surely help you uncover the mystery that is the unexplained female mind.
Women Want a Good Listener
Unlike us men, women like to let it all out about how they feel by talking until the moon turns blue! We, on the other hand, would rather grab a cold beer, turn on our flat-screen HD television to ESPN and watch a great football game. It has been estimated that for every 9,000 words a man would speak in a single day, a woman could easily speak up to 20,000 words! WOW! So guys, women want men who will genuinely listen to them attentively.
Several key tips for you to use to prove to her that you are listening and interested are as follow:
– Maintain complete eye contact with her while she speaks.
– If a text or call come through on your cell phone, let it go! Keep your attention on her.
– Do not try to offer solutions or advice unless you are absolutely sure it is going to be received in a positive manner. Why? Because nine times out of ten, your solution will be totally opposite of what she wanted to hear. Been there, done that.
Women Want To Be Desired By Their Men
A woman wants to know that her man is sexually attracted to her. Sexual attraction entails leadership. This means that you should ALWAYS take the lead during intimacy. This also applies to online dating and first dates.
If you are out with a beautiful girl on your first date and you are dropping her off at her residence, be a gentlemen and try to initiate the first kiss or hug. If you are lucky and she invites you in for a “little night cap”, be passionate, give her some good foreplay, massage her feet and you are good to go!
Failure to display any sexual attraction to a woman will raise red flags. She may craft up thoughts such as, “Does he think I’m ugly?” or “Does he think I’m too fat?” So hug, kiss and touch your woman lovingly with desire. Women adore it when men confidently show their sexual side.
Women Want Men To Show Interest In Their Everyday Activities
Listen guys, your woman wants you to be her best friend! It’s that simple! And this feeling should be visa versa. You don’t have to go overboard with this but try to show some interest in whatever she does or whatever she is involved with.
For example, if she had a business meeting earlier in the day, ask her how it went. If she is in school and she had a tough exam, start a conversation about this subject. If you know she’s not feeling too well, run her bath water for her. If she loves to jog or walk, accompany her in the morning or go to the gym together. If she loves cooking on the other hand, organize a cooking class for both of you to attend. Now this next suggestion should be an easy one! if she has a favorite sport, spend time watching it on television or go to a game with her.
Women Want Humorous and Witty Men
“I love him because he makes me laugh.” This has to be one of the most common responses women give when asked why they love the men in their lives! And believe it or not, they mean it!
You do not have to be a Rodney Dangerfield or Richard Pryor or Steve Martin, but having a good joke or two in your arsenal, is a huge plus for you! A great tip is to make fun of yourself or reference something you did crazy recently. Women absolutely LOVE it when a man is a little comical and doesn’t take himself so seriously all the time. However, please note that too much humor may come across as being needy and goofy. This is not cool and can be a major turn off.
Women Want A Man Who Treats Her Well and Respects Her
Men make the mistake of comparing their current spouses with previous partners and or even worse, their mothers. This is an instant turn off and these things can easily turn into big arguments! Instead, women want to be treated as individual entities, so focus on her strong points and don’t bring up the things that pisses you off!
No one is perfect including you and me. Be thankful for the good things and love her unconditionally.
Women Want Men Who Invest Time In Them
Spending some quality time with your woman is one of the most honorable thing you can do! Turn off your cell phone, iPad, Blackberry or any other smart device and go do something together on the weekend. This is the surest way to portray to her that you truly love her and that she is your first priority.
Women Want Well Groomed Men
Neatness says a lot about anyone. It shows that you look after yourself which is an attractive trait. Listen guys, you don’t have to go take a class in “How To Dress 101″ but just use a little common sense. Women want to be with a man who possess an ounce of fashion style. Your unique style should reflect your identity!
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