Do you know the most common blunders men make when approaching women and how these blunders affect their chances of getting the date they want?
It can be embarrassing to be turned down after you muster the courage to approach a stranger because she appears attractive. In addition to causing anxiety and agitation, the experience of being rejected frequently saps our self-confidence and instills a sense of inferiority complex in us.
However, as you are aware, not every man who approaches a woman is turned down. Why? because they are aware of what to do and avoid.
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1. You approach her from an incorrect angle.
Women who do not know you despise touching her from behind or saying, “Hey there, I’d like to talk to you.” To approach a woman the way we want to feels very simple. However, just to be clear, the key to success is not to do what we want, but rather to do what is required.
You wanted to approach a woman but later found out that the woman did not want that. Therefore, if you want to do it correctly, you should first find a way to make eye contact with her before approaching her from an angle where she can see you coming.
2. When your timing is off.
The following scenarios illustrate when approaching a woman inappropriately. You do that when she is rushing to get to work, rushing to finish something, talking on the phone, or when she gives the impression of being serious and focused.
As you are aware, it is challenging to be cooperative when there is a roadblock to our individual goal. When men approach women while they are engaged in a particular activity, it feels like that.
If you notice or suspect a woman is truly busy or engaged in a task that you can assist her with, approach her. However, avoid her if you are unable to do so and she appears so intent on completing that task.
3. You lack self-assurance.
Signs of low confidence include standing timidly, putting your hands in your pockets, sweating while speaking, and stammering when asking questions.
When a man doesn’t believe in himself, women can feel it. One way to impress a new woman is not to appear anxious. A woman immediately begins to believe that you are not the right man for her if she observes that you lack self-confidence.
Remind yourself that she is also a human being if you find her to be too intimidating. Don’t try to make up for it by acting too seriously; your actions will show everything.
4. You are far too traditional.
A woman is used to hearing things like “Hey what’s your name, hey you look lovely, hey can I talk to you,” unless she is just learning English for the first time.
When men approach a woman with these common phrases, the first thing that comes to her mind is “ugh, another one.” Consider this: there’s a good chance that she wouldn’t be single or out on her right now if she had said yes or given in to every other guy who had asked her these questions.
Therefore, you should try your hardest not to be predictable because women don’t want that guy. Don’t try to impress her too much. Instead, the first step is to inquire about her activities or clothing.
5. You attempt a first-date flirtation.
Don’t approach her with flirtatious phrases like “hey baby, hey you look hot in that dress, hey nice butt” because you don’t want to come across as regular or unpredictable.
6. Excessive effort.
Men, by nature, are goal-oriented, and they bring this trait to their interactions with women. In the end, your focus should not be on the sex or phone number; It ought to concentrate on having n and satisfying interaction. The pressure to perform or entertain will lessen when you focus on having fun, and things like phone numbers and sex will come naturally. Keep in mind that you are not after something from her.
7. Stop ignoring her friends because beautiful women rarely go out alone.
Typically, they are with friends. As a result, you will be seen as the guy who is just trying to hit on her friend when you ignore her friends because doing so shows disrespect for the group. Then you’ll get cock-blocks before you can even say them. Because of your ignorance, you will appear to the group as a man with no game or social skills.
8. Buying her a drink
You don’t know her at all, and she hasn’t done anything to get your respect or a drink. You are conveying that you are exerting an excessive amount of effort to win her over by doing this. This also lowers your status, and once a woman learns that you’re a buy-me-a-drink guy, she will take advantage.
9. Making only passing eye contact.
It’s difficult for many guys to look directly into her eyes. Alpha males look into a woman’s eyes directly. This kind of self-assurance demonstrates a power that women succumb to. As a result, she will be more open to your approach.
In a nutshell.
when you approach a woman for the first time and use flirtatious language, you come across as a jerk. A nice guy is not the same as a jerk. A woman may also slap you or say something provocative as a result of this.
Hence, stay away from anything that will cause her to feel like all you’re attempting to do is lie down with her the following moment. All flirtatious words should be replaced with specific, sincere compliments.
Your body language can help you attract the woman of your dreams. You could come across as impolite by flirting with her at first sight, and the next thing you know, she might stop being interested and starts leaving.
It is not rocket science to approach women and ask them out on a date, nor is it as scary as it is made out to be.
When approaching women, men simply need to avoid making these common blunders. You won’t succeed in being on a date with the woman you like if you keep these things in mind!
Thanks for reading.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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