Imagine having a crush on this person for so long, trying all sort of things to make her like you back, then one day, she tells you “you’re like a brother to her”.
Imagine how you’re going to feel at that moment, it can be traumatizing. All your hopes of getting her to be your girlfriend would be washed down the drain.
Being friend zoned is a worst place a guy can find himself in when he is interested in a romantic relationship.
Whilst you wallowi in your misery, women feel comfortable being a friends (brother) with a guy, because they are more socialized to have many different kinds of relationships.
If you’re in that position right now and don’t want to be, you should quickly look to move on.
I know it’s definitely not an easy task to break free from a make believe relationship you really wanted to work out but the sooner you realize that it is important for you to get over her, the better.
So, If there’s a lady you like and you really want to avoid being friend zoned, then this post is a must read because I’ve outlined and broken down different ways for you not to fall into that trap, because it’s a pit you might never get out of.
1. Focus on yourself
I’ve got to tell you this, women loves men who love themselves. Fall in love with yourself and focus on making yourself look attractive, because that’s obviously a big factor in wooing a lady, look nice, dress ok, be in healthy shape.
Of course focusing on yourself is not all about looks. Have dreams you strive to achieve and be hardworking (because women find men who are motivated attractive) and who knows, she might just start noticing you as someone she wants to be in a relationship with not someone she wants to have just as a friend.
2. Never be her best friend
Most of the time, the reason why guys are friend zoned by their crush is that they tend to assume the role of being her best buddy, which is very wrong.
If you want to avoid dropping into the friend zone, talk about things like being in relationships and fun things you would like to do together, because the more time you waste trying to be buddies, the deeper you’ll fall into the friend zone.
3. Never be her pretend boyfriend
There’s a fine line between being friends with a lady and being her boyfriend. You should never take on the responsibility of “the boyfriend” when you’re in a platonic friendship.
Some women will keep instilling hope that you could still have a chance with them in the future (again without wording it to you) just so they could keep enjoying the benefits you provide when you’re with her. Be wise!
4. Look good and Smell nice
Its is true that women are naturally attracted to men who looks good. Wear nice FITTED clothes and smell good. Personal hygeine is a must.
5. Compliment her looks
Compliment her when she looks good, but you have to be careful when complimenting her. Some women can be picky with how they want to be complimented, so if you offer a simple ‘You look beautiful today’ thinking you’d get a thank you and maybe see you for the charming romantic guy you are but instead she gives you a strange look and a cold reply, “What, I don’t look good every day?”
One factor to consider is her mood, you should always pick the right time to drop a compliment. Everyone wants to feel noticed and seen, so pay attention to things like if she is wearing a news outfit or has done something different with her hair. Bye Bye, friend zone!
6. Use Subtle Touch to Show Your Intentions
When i say touch her, I don’t mean touching her in a sexual way, a subtle touch on the cheek or holding her hand when walking down the street or intentionally brushing your legs against hers when sitting together or even opening the door for her like a gentleman.
There are ways to unintentionally intentionally (If you understand my English) give little hints that you’re into her, WINK!
If you do that, it’s going to set you apart from normal friends and you’re sure to create that spark of romantic emotions in her heart.
7. It’s okay to get angry!
Don’t be all cool and calm every time you’re around her, i understand you have a crush on her and you want her to see your loving side. but you have the right to get mad at her when she annoys you (because she eventually will) and avoid her for a few days and i assure you, she won’t stop thinking about you. Don’t make the mistake of being the happy guy all the time. It sets up an unrealistic expectation and she needs to know you have boundaries too.
8. Be mysterious
Another way to keep her thinking about you is for you to be mysterious. If you’re an open book, she is going to find you boring.
Keep her guessing and you’ll always be on her mind.
9. Don’t always be available
The best way to make her miss you and want you is to give her the best time of her life, take her out, have a lot of fun together and just go off for some days.
Don’t go blasting her phone with calls and text messages, and when she calls, pick her calls sparingly.
You shouldn’t always be available anytime she needs you. Don’t always say yes to her when she needs you, Tell her you have plans, don’t give her the impression that you don’t have a life outside your friendship.
IN CONCLUSION, remember these simple tricks to stay out of the friend zone with your crush. By following these tips, you can increase your chance of turning that special someone into more than just a friend.
So go ahead, give it a try, and may your love story be full with romance and not just friendship. Good luck!
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Previously Published on The Classy Lad and is republished on Medium.
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