I was talking to a girl at the bar.
It was getting pretty late. It was a slow weeknight and there weren’t that many customers. We might have been the only ones left. Our conversation was getting nice and intimate.
We hear the door open. A couple of new customers were coming in.
She suddenly gasped and grabbed my arm.
It just so happened that one of the two customers who just walked in was the bass guitarist and leader of a famous band that she was a huge fan of.
She recognized him immediately and started to quietly gush over him, totally freaking out on the inside. Whatever composure she had until then was forfeit.
I had heard of the band.
However, I wasn’t actually familiar with any of their music. I remember some friends in high school using their band name as messenger screen names or email addresses, though. They had been famous for a long time, and toured all over the world.
The bassist walked in with a woman I later learned was his manager. They had just finished some work and were looking for a random bar to unwind at. They sat about 5 seats away from us at the bar seats.
The girl I was with clearly wanted to talk to Mr. Celebrity.
“Why don’t you go talk to him?” I asked.
“NO I CAN’T!”
“Want me to go talk to him?”
“YES PLEASE.”
And so I did.
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If you’re just a regular guy wondering why women won’t ever approach you or make the first move, think about this for a moment.
People are generally shy, but women even more so compared to men. Usually. Even if you are as attractive and “high-value” as a literal celebrity, women will still be hesitant to talk to you.
You’ll be doing yourself a huge favor if you just start approaching.
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I have thousands of hours of approaching and socializing under my belt.
I can walk up to — and socialize well with — pretty much anyone without fear or hesitation because of all the practice I’ve done. I know how to get people to like me and to make them think I’m fun.
My abundant social confidence came from experience, even though it was difficult and nerve-wracking at first.
Even though I was about to chat up a celebrity with a million times more “social value” than me, I just walked up and started casually chatting like I’d do with anyone.
“Excuse me, but are you the bassist for the band [band name redacted]?”
“Yes, I am,” he replied with a welcoming smile.
“I’m embarrassed to admit that I’m not that familiar with your music, but my friend here is a huge fan.”
Becoming fast friends
Mr. Celebrity and Ms. Manager were kind, and the four of us drank together for the rest of the night until we all went home. We took selfies together, followed each other on social media, all the standard social rituals.
The girl I was with even got the chance to dance with Mr. Celebrity, which was like a dream come true for her. I chatted with Ms. Manager in the meantime and made sure to give her equal attention throughout the night.
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The girl I was with apparently always had a huge celebrity crush on him, so she was getting quite excited. If Mr. Celebrity tried to take her home at any point, it would have been a done deal. He didn’t, though.
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I would have been cool with whatever. I was already happy that he paid for all our drinks!
All kinds of arousal…
If she wasn’t going to sleep with Mr. Celebrity that night, what was she to do with all this excitement?
Pickup artists called this kind of excited energy “buying temperature,” and we understood that this energy didn’t necessarily have to be attached to a specific person. It’s essentially transferable.
The bar closed, the celebrity and his manager left, and it was just the two of us walking as the sun threatened to take a peak over the horizon.
“Do you want to come over to my place?”
Guess who asked whom that question?
Just goes to show that even just the social skills that I teach can be equally as useful as seduction skills sometimes. All I had to do then was befriend a person who walked into the bar.
Never let your jealousy get in the way of a good time. 😉
Have you ever met a celebrity? What happened after that? Let me know in the comments!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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