I would never tell my kids this, but sometimes I think I’m the better parent. I won’t go into why I feel this sometimes, but I will say: that grubby stance doesn’t align with my values, and I’d like to try my hand at the ‘quick n clean’ narrative instead.
Ten times out of ten, when I ask my ex-husband for extra time with my kids, I get shut down and then shamed for one reason or another (unless they’re sick).
But this story is the quick and clean version — so I digress.
Today, when my ex asked to take my son to a concert this weekend (my weekend), I had every opportunity to give it (a hard time) back to him and influence my son not to go.
Here’s why I didn’t say a word about the concert on our way home from school and chose empathy and humility instead:
- My son’s relationship with his dad is not my responsibility and is out of my control. I will never get in the way of their bond.
- We are all trying our best to get through this divorce.
- I want them to have a good relationship. To want anything less would be selfish and unkind.
- Music heals the heartache in my world. I am hoping it does the same for my son and his dad.
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This post was previously published on The Brain is a Noodle.
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