My friend and I are sitting at the pool. She’s hot. I’m not talking temperature, or looks. She’s fuming. The guy she’s been seeing has been seeing someone else.
“He doesn’t know who he’s dealing with,” she says.
“I know,” I say.
“No,” she says. “I mean it. I’m gonna burn his house down.”
“I believe you,” I say.
“He underestimated me,” she says.
“I know,” I say. “But maybe you shouldn’t do anything. It might not turn out well. You may not want this to escalate.”
“I’m not afraid of anything, or anyone,” she says. “I don’t care.”
I believe her.
She’s not easily intimidated.
And she’s right. The man she was seeing underestimated her. He thought between concealing, and lying she would never know the truth. But she can sniff out a cheater.
She wants answers, she’s hurt, she’s angry, and by her own admission, she’s got a temper, and if you wrong her she will take you down.
In other words…
She comes with a warning.
Her husband cheated on her. She told the last two men she dated that she only has two requirements. Don’t lie, and don’t cheat.
Maybe they weren’t listening.
Guys…
There are 3 kinds of women once we’re wronged.
The Burn Your House Down Bitch
Men should be scared of this kind of woman.
She’s not playing.
She’s serious.
She’s overtly proclaiming war. She’s not in hiding. She’s not thinking. She’s not planning. She’s ready to pounce. Her emotional raid is immediate. It’s overt.
There’s nothing covert about it.
She wants revenge, and retribution.
She’s judge and jury.
She wants the accountability of the man who wronged her. But who is denying her the justice she seeks for the injustice she’s suffered. She’s tired of the liar who’s been lying. Who is usually still lying after he’s been caught.
His denials make her want to strike the match more.
She wants him to be exposed for his wrongs, she’s going to tear him down.
She’s the hunter.
The Petty Bitch
Men won’t see this woman coming.
I was out with two friends recently. I told them what I was writing about. I said that there are only a few types of women once we are wronged. I point to my ‘Burn Your House Down Bitch.’
“I know she’s a BYHDB,” I say. “But you my other friend, I’m not yet sure what to call your brand of wronged woman.”
“That’s easy,” says my friend. “I’m ‘The Petty Bitch.’”
“That you are,” I say.
Who’s ‘The Petty Bitch’ or TPB?
She’s a slow burn kind of a girl.
She’s planning her revenge, and attack. She’s sneaky. She’s patient, and methodical. She’s willing to wait to combat her opponent, and to ready herself for battle.
She’s the passive-aggressive punisher.
She’s calculating her moves sequentially to haunt the guy who’s wronged her. She’s more interested in a continual strike. She wants to keep the retribution movement going.
A fast fire isn’t gratifying to her.
It’s over too quickly.
She’s the haunter.
The Child’s Play Chick
Men will get off easy with this kind of girl.
I’m actually a ‘Child’s Play Chick.’
My friends know this.
I’m not going to tear you down, hunt you down, or haunt you. You’re more likely to haunt me because somewhere down deep I’ll find the good in the bad.
Not immediately.
I’ll ruminate on it, I’ll have my wronged woman moment. I’ll hate the man. My ‘I’ve been wronged’ tears will be laced with a voluminous amount of F.U.
As well as, the tirade I unleash on the guy who wronged me.
I’m no shrinking violet.
A ‘Child’s Play Chick,’ or CPC isn’t a doormat.
She just lets the emotional dust settle.
She’s not intent on revenge. It’s not her thing. She’s not looking to make the man who wronged her pay for his bad behavior. She’ll ride it out. She’ll look for the lesson amongst it all, sooner than later.
That is, after the F.U. is sufficiently worn out of her.
She’ll milk it for a while.
I’m a ‘Child’s Play Chick.’
It’s not in my nature to be the hunter, or the haunter. Plus, I left a “Burn Your House Down Bastard.” I’ve been on the receiving end of that war. And I didn’t even wrong the man. I simply left him.
The ‘Child’s Play Chick’ makes the wronged war a little too easy for a man.
She’s the haunted.
…
Every woman wants to makes sense of a romantic ending. Especially, a bad ending. A woman wants to rectify what happened to her heart. She has to get the gist of why?
Why did a man tamper with her heart?
There are 3 kinds of women once we are wronged.
Our personalities come out to play.
Some are trigger happy, some are calmly calculating, and some diffuse differently. A little more easily. But we know who we are. And if a guy wrongs us, he will too.
He will understand exactly who he’s been playing with.
He will know the girl whose feelings he disregarded.
The heart he bankrupt.
And the aftermath that will follow.
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