Ask any woman whether she would prefer to be told she is loved, shown she is loved or feel she is loved. Trust me, you’ll be interested in the response.
See, you can say the words, “I love You” to a woman, with sincerity, and it will brighten her day. You can also shower the woman with gifts or money to show you love her, and she will truly appreciate that. However, the real question is, what will it take for the woman to, feel your love for her?
What does it take for your woman to feel your love, daily without your words or gifts?
What does it take for your woman to view your saying “I love You” and buying her gifts, as merely icing on top, of the love she already feels from you?
Well, we have a few helpful tips that just may answer those questions.
Time
Designate time daily, weekly and even randomly for your relationship. This is one of the most effective methods of displaying love and for nurturing a healthy relationship.
Make no excuses, find the time!
Never be too busy with work or money, to set aside consistent time to sit, talk, walk or just be silent together with her. This time spent, is what will fuel your relationship to make it through those hills and valleys that relationships often encounter.
The Little Big Things
Does she like her ice cubed or crushed?
What was her favorite tv show as a child?
What is her favorite color?
Did you know that there are thousands of men who’ve been in a relationships for many years and still can’t answer any of the questions listed above?
See, the more details you know and follow about your woman’s likes, dislikes, favorites and habits, the more you’ll learn about her and she will see how much you’re actually in to her and what she’s about.
Remembering birthdays and the holidays are too easy. You want to pay attention to the “little big things” in her life, to show that you remember and that you care. For instance, if she mentions she has a presentation to give at work, remember to ask her about it and encourage her the night before. Find out what time it’s schedule for and reach out to her right after to see how the presentation went and congratulate her on it.
Discover the “little Big Things” that make her happy. Acknowledge and celebrate them with her. Trust me, you’ll be glad you did.
Knowing When
It’s not just about the gifts and saying, “I Love You”. The key is to know when to say I Love You, when to show up with gifts and/or when to do both.
Honestly, it’s about charming her with thoughtful surprises and celebrating by her side at the various special events and occasions she enjoys. It’s the daily little love reminders, you leave planted throughout the landscape of your relationship. These little love reminders are the gifts and the “I Love You’s” you give, not only on every special occasion, but anytime your heart moves you to tell or show your woman, that you love her.
Try this:
1) End every phone call with an “I Love You” or “Love you”!
2) Text an emoji once a day to her phone, like an image of blowing a kiss, a picture of a heart, or something conveying that you are thinking about her.
3) Make it a priority each morning to be that voice, that encouraging presence that let’s her know that you are there to love and protect her, before she steps out the door to start each day.
4) When she needs to vent about her day or anything weighing on her mind, be there consistently as a supportive listener, advisor and that shoulder to lean on whenever needed.
Through Thick & Thin
The strength of a relationship is found in the challenges and circumstances you endure together. The longer the relationship exists, the more potential disagreements and challenges may arise. However, love begins to reveal itself as you overcome each relationship obstacle. Each time this occurs, and you both agree to remain together, it strengthens the bond of your relationship and helps each person see just how much the other loves them and how much each is willing to invest in growing and protecting the love that forms the foundation of your relationship.
Hint: Men, as you execute each of these tips and concepts we discussed, you will know they’re working because a real woman will reciprocate. She will match it and often exceed in most cases.
As young men, many of us were not taught much about love and relationships. This is one of the contributing factors to divorces, separations, loveless marriages and domestic abuse. So, taking time to learn and understand how to activate the true, genuine feeling of love between you and a woman, is one of the most valuable investments you can make.
Though we’ve learned a ton from relationships and other interactions, these are just a few helpful insights to share and employ, to help you better understand and connect with that special woman in your life!
Stay tuned for Part 2: The Communication Lesson
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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