Dating feels brutal for so many relationship-ready singles, especially over 40. In this episode, Shana James talks with Adam Cohen-Aslatei, CEO of Three Day Rule, about how AI is reshaping modern matchmaking and how AI makes it easier for people to date and find real, emotionally available love. They explore dating burnout, why the apps are failing people, the power of intentional dating, and how AI can even support deeper human connection. A must-listen for those who want to stop unconsciously swiping and start consciously dating and creating meaningful relationships.
AI Matchmaking: AI Reshapes Dating for Lasting Love: Show Notes
If you’re dating, you may be feeling what so many of my clients say:
Dating feels brutal.
There’s too much swiping and not enough real connection.
I’m tired of trying to match instead of actually getting to meet someone.
And seriously… what is up with the algorithms?
This week on Practicing Love, I talked with Adam Cohen-Aslatei, the CEO of the fastest-growing matchmaking company in the US, Three Day Rule. We explored something I think more people need to hear right now:
How AI could actually help you find love AND bring us back to real, human connection.
Three Day Rule is using AI to find patterns we often can’t (or won’t) see in ourselves. They are finding a way to guide people toward matches that are more compatible than we might choose ourselves. And paradoxically, AI is also guiding people back into their bodies, intuition, and humanity.
In our interview, we talked about:
- Why so many relationship-ready people burn out on dating apps
- The Three Day Rule process for great dating: before, during, and after a date
- How to date in a way where each connection helps you grow, even if it’s not “the one”
- Why attunement and conversational presence are the real foundations of lifelong spark
- How AI is already creating more clarity and less guessing — better photos, identity verification, message responses, and more
- How Three Day Rule blends smart matching with deeper human discernment
- And why the holidays + “cuffing season” are a powerful moment to get more intentional about love
This time of year is the peak of both breakups and newly formed relationships. Many of us long for warmth and closeness.
Let’s make sure you move through it in a way that gets you more connection and play, rather than more pain and grief.
If you’re single, here’s one tip Adam talks about in the episode:
Your mindset is incredibly important. Dating this holiday season will go better for you when you shift from the negative to the positive.
For example, shift from
“My body is older and less desirable,”
to
“I’m older and wiser and a better catch than ever!”
I know you are getting better with age, so practice taking on this mindset!
After you listen, if you haven’t checked out or subscribed to my new YouTube channel, where I talk about how to create intimacy and love that stays alive, check it out here. And let me know if there are topics you want covered!
P.S. I made a video: don’t date after divorce until you do this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_jPsDoVzVM
Seems like a good one to share with a dating episode!
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Bio:
Adam Cohen-Aslatei is the CEO of Three Day Rule, a modern matchmaking and relationship wellness company. With over 15 years in the dating industry, his career includes leadership roles at companies like Bumble and The Meet Group, and founding the dating app S’more before it was acquired. He is leading Three Day Rule’s expansion, which includes launching a new AI-powered app and coaching programs to help singles find meaningful, lasting relationships.
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Previously Published on Shana James Coaching
