Are Men Hardwired to Cheat Because They’re the Prize?

I was chatting with my girls, some married, some single. You know when girls gather, we don’t just talk, we gossip. Yeah!

So what I found out was that modern men now live in la la land where they think they are the price. They want to be chased and spoiled like a princess.

One of my friends said her husband explicitly told her to her face that he is the price she won because he puts food on her table and gives her a roof over her head.

My friend is a stay-at-home wife. She cooks, cleans, takes care of the children and manages her home.

Apparently, her husband doesn’t see her contribution as a job worthy of recognition.

Another friend said whenever her boyfriend gets angry he would threaten her with a breakup and get this, he would brag that he has other women who would be happy to have him as theirs.

I got so furious and I asked her why is she still with that jerk. But I got a pathetic answer. She said, “He’s the man of the house.”

I can’t stand it when women think they are put on this earth to be a man’s slave.

The most terrifying story was that of Gina.

Gina married her husband, who is six years older than her. She once believed he was her safe haven. They have a baby together, but their relationship is anything but secure.

Gina discovered he cheated on her multiple times and is battling a severe sex addiction. Worse, he’s abusive in ways that have left her terrified.

One time he choked her, threw her belongings, pinched her nose until it bruised, and punched walls in fits of rage. Several times he had threatened to kill her.

Gina has no family or friends nearby, no car, and no place to go — she moved to be with him and is financially dependent on him.

They live with his mother, who dismisses Gina’s pain, claiming her son could never do such things.

Gina has reached out to resources, and while they’re helping, she feels like she’s battling this nightmare alone.

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On calm days, her husband can be sweet and gentle, making her question herself and feel guilty.

But deep down, Gina knows she’s living in fear.

She’s scared he’ll find her if she leaves — and that he’ll make good on his threats. She’s holding onto hope for a better future, but it’s a lonely, uphill battle.

Yeah, safe haven my foot.

That’s the man who is supposed to be the price, right?

Thank you, Sir! I would rather sleep on the streets.

I watched The Diary of a CEO’s podcast where his guest, Dr Saad spoke about men being hardwired to cheat and this sucks every time I hear someone defend men’s bad behavior.

But one thing he said that actually made sense was that men have a choice to cheat or not cheat.

As humans, we are expected to have self-discipline because that is what separates us from animals.

It is a lack of self-discipline that leads to sexual abuse, physical violence and murder.

Men, whether they realize it or not, are shaped by both biology and societal grooming. And as you explore this, it becomes clear that what society teaches plays a much bigger role than many care to admit.

For centuries, people have pointed to biology as the reason for men’s heightened sex drives.

Testosterone, the primary male hormone, is often labelled the culprit. This hormone, you’re told, drives men to seek out sex more frequently than women.

Evolutionary psychology further complicates the conversation.

The argument goes that men, in ancient times, were hardwired to spread their genes to ensure survival. A man who impregnated multiple partners increased his odds of passing down his DNA, while women, tied to childbearing, were biologically inclined to be more selective.

But if you stop here, you’re only getting part of the story. Biological impulses are just one piece of the puzzle — and they’re not as uncontrollable as some claim.

Men Are Groomed to Feel Entitled

From a young age, boys are subtly — and sometimes blatantly — taught that they’re entitled to a woman’s body.

Think about the media you’ve consumed or the conversations you’ve overheard. Movies and TV shows often depict women as prizes to be won, objects of desire for male protagonists.

Even in casual conversations, phrases like “boys will be boys” reinforce the idea that male sexuality is an unstoppable force women must simply navigate.

Society tells men they deserve sex, often without teaching them about mutual respect or consent.

You’ve seen it happen — locker room talk, comments that frame women as “conquests,” or the unspoken belief that a man’s persistence should override a woman’s discomfort.

These messages create a dangerous sense of entitlement, blurring the lines between desire and disrespect.

Then there’s the issue of reinforcement. Men are often celebrated for their sexual exploits in ways women are not.

If a man sleeps with multiple partners, he’s called a “player” or admired for his confidence. If a woman does the same, she’s a “slut” and underserving.

This double standard reinforces the idea that men’s sexual needs are valid and praiseworthy, while women’s autonomy is something to be controlled or criticized.

You’ve likely seen how this plays out in dating dynamics, too.

Men are often encouraged to chase and pursue, while women are expected to play the role of gatekeepers.

This dynamic can create an imbalance where men feel justified in pushing boundaries because they’ve been told it’s their job to do so.

It’s time we stopped buying into this toxic culture that is tearing men and women apart.

What’s important to realize is that none of this is inevitable.

Men are not inherently entitled to a woman’s body, nor are they slaves to their biology. You — and the men in your life can challenge these ingrained beliefs.

It starts with unlearning the myths you’ve been told. Men need to recognize that desire doesn’t equal entitlement.

Respecting boundaries, understanding consent, and viewing women as equals rather than objects are fundamental steps toward healthier relationships.

This isn’t just about personal growth — it’s about creating a culture where everyone feels safe and valued.

You can be part of this change by questioning stereotypes, calling out toxic behaviors, and encouraging open conversations about sex and respect.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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