Yes, doubt is a normal part of human life. Everyone commits mistakes in the journey of a mutual relationship. Doubt is one such mistake. The relationship never goes smoothly. You have to overcome different kinds of doubts. Although doubt is a normal part of a healthy relationship, it becomes problematic if you do not focus on resolving it. Sometimes you feel insecure about your partner, or you remain fearful about the future of this relationship. When this happens, you need to recognize the universal fact that there is no perfect relationship in society. It would help if you told your partner about the uncertainty of your relationship so that he may adopt healthy relationship patterns.
Following are the common doubts that a partner feels in a healthy relationship.
1. Your partner is taking an interest in someone else.
2. You may not fit in with your partner’s family.
3. You may not have sexual compatibility.
4. You show concern for future goals.
5. Your partner may have aligned values.
6. You are fearful about your past actions.
7. Your partner may not have the ability to tolerate anger.
8. You may have doubts if your partner cares much about you.
1. Your partner is taking an interest in someone else.
When your partner has a social network, he may take an interest in the lifestyle of others. You will generally become suspicious about his doings. You will observe your partner actively. Even if he cares about you also besides his affairs, you cannot satisfy yourself from his side.
2. You may not fit in with your partner’s family.
A good understanding of your partner’s family is a sign of a healthy relationship. If you fail to build strong communication with your partner’s family, you have to face challenges in marital life. You will remain in Doubt that his family members may urge your partner against you because you do not give them the respect they deserve.
3. You may not have sexual compatibility.
Sometimes physical relationship becomes a prime need besides emotional interaction. You may not have physical intimacy as much as your partner wants from you. You may not have sensual feelings at the same level as your partner. If you do not have good compatibility, you will remain in fear of rejection by your partner always.
4. You show concern for future goals.
A stage occurs in which you become possessive about your future goals. You want to achieve your goals instantly by hook or by crook. This thirst for achievement creates a doubt in your partner’s mind that you may want to achieve high status or maybe in a hurry to get all the things to become independent.
5. Your partner may have aligned values.
Everyone has a different thinking pattern and wants to spend his life according to his values. If you come across your partner with various social, moral, and cultural values, you will remain doubtful that he may impose his cultural traditions on you. On the other hand, he may force himself to implement social laws on you to retain a good position in society.
6. You are fearful about your past actions.
If you have past affairs with someone and are still in contact with your ex, it will typically create Doubt in your partner’s mind. You will consider yourself answerable before your partner about your extra-marital relationship. You cannot keep him satisfied until you break all your past affairs. Your wrong actions in the past will create a suspicious point of view about your character.
7. Your partner may not have the ability to tolerate anger.
Sometimes your partner shows violent behavior due to his problem, maybe his work stress or any loss in business, etc., and you create a doubt that perhaps he does not want to live with you. This relationship doubt becomes grave if you do not take action to reform your relational attitudes. Stress reduces the mental ability to tolerate emotions. Therefore, he cannot control his feelings, and you consider yourself an abandoned soul.
8. You may become suspicious if your partner cares much about you.
If your partner is pretending to be extra caring and loving, you become suspicious of why he is showing much affection without any specific reason. Either he entangles me in his love or wants some personal benefit from you. This unusual exaggeration of emotions creates Doubt, typically even in a healthy relationship.
Conclusion
Everyone sees things differently and wants to live their lives by their principles. Your partner can take an interest in other people’s lifestyles if he uses social media. Your partner may start to wonder if you are pursuing high status or if you are striving to get all you need to become independent due to your passion for success. If your spouse has different social, moral, and cultural values from you, you may be anxious that he will try to impose them on you. Your prior wrongdoings would undoubtedly cast a doubt light on your reputation. These are all usual doubts which happen in daily life.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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