Relationships are a part of us.
It shapes us.
Some shape us to be better whilst some bring the worst out of us.
Some of us have had our fair share of relationships and are tired of them and want a break from everything.
Whereas, some of us are ready to take that leap and find someone to be in a relationship with.
With that being said, if you are one of these people looking for a relationship — I want you to ask yourself the 3 following questions.
Am I Generous Enough?
And does my generosity allow me to be in a real relationship? A relationship without any strings attached. A friendship with no purpose.
When you’re in a relationship, it is no longer about you as an individual anymore. You are responsible for the other person the same way they are responsible for you. A part of that is learning the ins and outs of your partner, what makes them happy and how you can add to their happiness.
And with this means you are doing for the other person, without wanting to get something out of it.
Thats generosity.
To create a continuous cycle of joy.
Do You Truly Respect People?
Can you be around people and respect their opinions? Do you struggle to be around people that have different views of you? Are you very opinionated about other people’s life decisions?
If yes to any of these — you may have some work to do before getting into a relationship. And I say this because you’re not ever going to find a duplicate of yourself. Someone who shares the exact same train of thoughts, opinions, moral compass, etc.
You need to understand that once you start a life with someone, you need to respect them and even the people around them. Not all of them will be your cup of tea, but you need to understand how to manoeuvre them in a respectful way.
A man and woman equally just want to be respected in a relationship.
Respect is greater than love.
Are You Willing to Compromise?
Relationships aren’t just about great date nights with amazing food and intense sex. It was more than that and that is why a lot of people fail at maintaining relationships. When you enter a relationship, you sign a contract that you will be obligated to that somebody. You have a duty of care for them.
The road is not always going to be easy. You’re going to bump heads, disagree and get frustrated with the other person. But I’m here to tell you and everybody else will is that it is very very normal.
How is that normal? Well, my answer as I stated above is that you will never find a duplicate of yourself, therefore you’re going to bump heads and have to learn about the other person. This is where you have to compromise.
It may not be exactly what you want to do, but you find a happy medium for the two of you.
Compromise is all about meeting in the middle.
Are You Ready?
If you can answer these 3 questions with an authentic yes — you are ready to step into the dating world where you are actively looking for a progressive relationship.
If you are unsure, I would reflect and understand what you want from life. Maybe you don’t want a relationship, you may want to travel the world and discover yourself for the next 6 months.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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