Dickson Lam and Ted Closson’s stunning and honest comic about cycles of abuse comes from Lam’s childhood.
Dickson Lam explains how the comic came about:
“This comic is autobiographical, adapted from my memoir-in-progress. I juxtaposed the two events in my life because I’m interested in exploring what it means to be a witness of abuse. By reading the comic, the reader also becomes a witness.”
Would it ever be considered acceptable to lock a teen girl out of her home onto the streets to fend for herself? Teen boys are more likely to be victims of violence, yet locking him out was Okay? There is a glaring gender issue there…….
Okay, I’ll try this again. My apologies to both you and the illustrator. As I stated, you know me well enough to know that I am empathetic to many issues. My intention was in no way a personal affront to the illustrator but more so a general comment regarding the continuous articles that reflect men/boys being bad. I’m not saying this to make excuses . As I stated in the response that never showed up, abuse is cyclical. The parents were more then likely abused and as a cycle of behavior, chances are the children will become abusers as well.… Read more »
The mother struck her son first…….The brother only intervened when the mother was struck in return. Female violence is seen as acceptable in current society. Also the older brother was parentified via a need the family had to deal with the loss of the father, the job to insure that didn’t happen was on the adult guardian……it was the mother’s failure that the brother was left to maintain order, she should have shouldered that burden.
Interesting that repeatedly striking your teenage son is shown as a mother’s right. Why is this seen as Okay? Is female control of minor males by physical violence considered her right? Is striking a male to express disapproval over someone elses actions Okay?
Where did you get the idea that Lam is saying that it was okay for his mother to hit!?!
Okay we got it, men are bad, husbands are bad, dads are bad.
So no one can comment on a seriously damaging issue in our society without someone making it all about their feelings? Why would you take it so personally or as an attack against all men?
If this was about domestic violence against men, perpetrated by a women I would support the sentiment behind the message:that it must end.
Instead of worrying about your own feelings why don’t you support people who try to speak out about something so abhorrent?
You know Tom, this is a really crappy thing to say. Dickson is telling his story of the abuse he witnessed in his home. Will you deny him the opportunity to tell this story? Will you really make this a place where a man can’t discuss (in the way that he feels comfortable) the things that he’s experienced without yet another person coming in and saying, “Shut up”? Because that’s what you’re doing. I’m letting your comment stand to make clear that there will never, ever be a moment on this site where an author feels they will be attacked… Read more »
Why didn’t my response show up?