Breaking the Mold

Have you ever felt that gut feeling that comes before any other thought, a sensation you can’t explain?

In how many moments of our lives have we paid due attention to what we feel? I’m not talking about what we create or imagine in our minds, but that feeling that comes at once, without asking permission, and that suddenly dominates our body and even our mind.

Have you ever felt that gut feeling that comes before any other thought, a sensation that you can’t explain and that in many cases when your conscious, your mind, or whatever you want to call it, perceives the arrival of this message seeks in every way to deny or even put a series of obstacles?

In the texts about emotional intelligence for Parents that I write, I talk a lot about how we deny and disregard our children’s feelings through everyday and routine phrases like “Stop being silly,” “That was nothing,” “Don’t cry, don’t be sad.”

It is noticeable that we are already trained to deny our feelings from a young age and when we grow up we hear that “we should follow our own path” or even “listen to what our heart is saying.” But we don’t know how to do that, we weren’t raised that way.

We were raised through intellectual and physical development with daily learning from our parents and school, and when we start to have autonomy to decide our actions, they ask us to do something that we have not experienced and that we hardly knew we had, which is so powerful.

It is confusing, different and in many cases painful to break this shell that has been formed for years. It’s what many people today call a comfort zone. Our unconscious mind sends out various signals and stimulates us daily to expand this ‘comfort area’.

And how difficult it is to feel our emotions and transform them into actions. We have no practice.

In addition, there is a “little voice” inside us saying precisely that this or that will not work, that it is dangerous, that it is expensive, that there is no time or even that it depends on someone (a classic).

And when we stop to think about those people who have been successful or who are standing out as we would like to be — because comparison is inevitable — somehow we realize how simple and pleasant it is.

At that moment the “little voice” already has a ready answer, “it was luck.”

“I can’t stop the feeling… So just dance, dance, dance”

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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