This is a first for my writing career. I’m writing this mid-flight back home to Alabama after a coach training weekend in New York. Seating on a Boeing 717 isn’t exactly conducive to this. You should see me. I’m all scrunched up and trying not to elbow my sleeping seatmate in the belly.
Today’s topic is kind of scary. But leaning into this topic can open your life in many ways.
Is there anything in your life that you know is healthy or good for you but you’re filled with a case of “But I don’t wanna?” If this has ever happened to you, you’ve experienced this topic.
What am I talking about?
It helps to read that word with a harp glissando behind it. More impact, don’t you know?
Let’s try that again…
Still not feeling it? Read on…
Chances are, a few of you reading this are smokers. You may have tried quitting, but you could never truly give it up. You feared the repercussions in your life: irritability, weight gain, stuff like that.
The negative possibility outweighed the positive possibility in your mind. The possibility of being able to walk a flight of stairs without wheezing. Less possibility of a heart attack, cancer, or stroke.
Granted, I say this as a nonsmoker. I get that it’s difficult.
Do you see my point, though?
Merriam-Webster.com defines the word possibility as “a chance that something might exist, happen, or be true: a state of being possible.”
I didn’t say it absolutely had to be good possibility.
One of the possibilities I’ve been wrestling with over the course of the last year is a move that I want to make.
I turn 40 in March. My address has always been in Alabama. I have never lived anywhere else.
Let’s flash back to 2012. That was one of the darkest years of my life. I’d been let go from a wholly-unfulfilling but steady job of better than five years in March of 2011. I had been unemployed over a year. I was in a pretty desperate place.
In October of 2012 I made a five-year plan. By the time I turned 40, I’d be a published author and I’d be living in either Los Angeles or New York to pursue my author career full time.
March will be here before we know it. So, it’s time to make a declaration.
January of 2017 I’ll be a resident of the New York metropolitan area. This is to serve the possibilities of my author career, my coaching career, and finding love and starting a family.
(Quick side note: if my coach is reading this, yes I just made a bold declaration on this global platform. Yes, I realize the possibility of how many could read this. Yes, I’m terrified. And yes, it’ll be brought up in our next call.)
By the way, one of these days I’m going introduce my readers to my volatile old friend Steve. He loved that declaration paragraph.
Your mind (and by yours, I mean my mind… just sayin’) has a funny way of keeping you from embracing possibility. My move to New York will present me with loads of possibility. Not all of them positive either.
Here are a few of the positive possibilities of my move:
- New York is one of the publishing capitals of the world.
- The chances of my finding love are a lot greater there. More fish, y’know.
- I believe coaches are more in demand.
- Culture is a short subway ride away.
- Gotham needs me.
These are just what I can think of right now.
Here are the negative possibilities:
- Have you ever experienced a winter in New York? It’s freaking cold! And the snow? C’mon man!
- There are a lot of people. It’s like a clown car.
- The subway system is complicated. Buy me a drink and I’ll tell you about the time I went to Harlem instead of Wall Street. (Downtown vs. uptown)
- It’s freaking expensive to live in New York!
Again, I could go on.
Do I leverage my comfort and stability of where I’ve spent almost 40 years? Or do I have an attitude of “what the hell? Let’s see what happens?”
Grounding your life in possibility (he writes from 30 thousand feet) is one of the cornerstones of what can set your life on fire. It’s going to be challenging. But with right support, it can make your life spectacular.
I have very few spots left in Team Ryan Coaching. Now more than ever, I want to support you in exploring possibility in your life.
- Website: team-ryan.team
- Email: [email protected]
Do you want to live your life as if you’re alive? Do you want to embrace the possibilities of your life?
Are you uncomfortable?
Good! That’s possibility, my friends.
Gotta go. Seats and tray tables to their upright and locked position.
Photo by Sean MacEntee