Opening up about sexual habits can be exhilarating.
This comment was by Freebird in reference to the post – This Single Mother Enjoys Good Sex as Well as Her Male Counterparts
Thank you, Sarah. I was really glad to see this posting. I am a 49-year-old divorced single mom. I adore my kids. My marriage was terrible and after eight years of bad sex, I thought I was frigid and beyond hope.
After the divorce was finalized, I began meeting men on online dating sites. I always go for highly educated, older, smart, professional, strong men who have their act together. I just enjoy giving to them, getting some orgasms, being totally open and honest with them. I expect the same in return. Nobody is looking for serious relationships or marriage. It’s a FWB (Friend with Benefits) and I love that I can feel so sexy and pretty and alive.
With the emphasis on “finding a serious relationship” and “marriage as an institution,” I didn’t want to tell anyone except for one girlfriend and one guy about my extracurricular sexual enjoyment. Too scared about “slut” naming and judgments.
I look good and work hard to be and feel attractive and sexy. I love to let go and be so intimate with a man. If I go more than a week without being with one a FWB, I find myself getting irritable and craving that touch and physicality. And I have a good gym membership. By the way, yoga has done wonders for my sex life. Should you have the time and energy, aside from the mental clarity and health, the other benefits are well worth it.
Someday perhaps I will want to and actually have more of a serious relationship. But finding the right man where we will build each other up to be the best human beings we can be plus the chemistry for a good sex life, the desire to serve and sacrifice and heal each other from past wounds seems like a real challenge. In the meantime, thanks for your article reminding me that judgments stay at the door and it’s totally ok to be a bit of a siren when needed.
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