Conservative Men Are Lying About Their Politics When Dating

I firmly believe the best relationships are those where people share similar political beliefs. Precisely because our politics often reflect our values. And the more shared values we have, the less conflict there will be over the life choices we make.

It does not mean a liberal woman with a liberal man or vice versa guarantees a blissful relationship — far from it.

Even if you luck out and find a partner who agrees with your politics, there are plenty of non-political hot-button issues like trust, jealousy, and personality habits that can be a source of strife.

All I am saying is that being closer politically just means you have a swath of issues you do not have to worry about, especially those related to identity, morality, culture, and how society should function. It only makes sense to be with a like-minded partner, especially in the current climate where political issues are more personal, i.e., race, gender, sexuality, religion, and bodily autonomy.

Now, the next logical question would be: how do you ensure you and your date mesh politically?

Well, it is simple really…

You have to ask them who they voted for, ideally before the first date.

There is no other way around this. Well, kinda, but more on this soon.

I say before the first date because people generally do not want to embroil themselves in heated political arguments, especially during what should be a positive encounter.

Asking about this sensitive but important topic sooner rather than later will save you potential discomfort. If you find out about the incompatibility early on, you can cut your losses before committing to the meetup. You don’t have to get into a long-winded discussion; a brief text saying, “I was wondering, are you an active voter, and who did you vote for in the last election?” will suffice.

However, there is one big caveat to all this.

While asking direct political questions works, it usually works better when a man asks a woman.

This is based on my anecdotal observations; I do not have any studies to back this up, so please don’t hold my feet to the fire.

But I have noticed from talking to my liberal female friends that a lot of conservative men tend to mask their political orientation early on, only for them to unleash their true tendencies once a relationship is in full swing. By this point, they have garnered investment, making it harder for the woman to leave. It’s a scummy practice, but I have seen it happen enough times for me to notice.

I suspect this phenomenon happens because liberal women tend to outnumber conservative women, especially within the 20 to 30 age group, which also happens to be the demographic most likely to be dating.

The fact that conservative women are more likely to marry early, have stricter views on premarital sex and are more likely to emphasize traditional practices — meaning men must pursue and pay for everything — certainly does not help the situation.

If women are going to get around this conundrum, they are going to need to be more crafty when vetting. Asking directly about political leanings will not cut it, at least with some men. They will either straight-up lie or skirt the line in the middle: i.e., call themselves moderate or undecided while knowing full well they are a bona fide, full-on conservative.

Ideally, we should all be honest about our values, but that is not always the case.

So, if I were a woman, this is how I would go about finding out someone’s true political leaning.

Of course, everything I am saying here applies to people seeking long-term relationships. For casual encounters, I would not bother — unless you are the type of person who believes that even hookups should happen among people who share the same political views.

Here’s how to get him to reveal his true politics

Pivot it as a relationship question

Instead of asking who he voted for, I would ask about his opinion on whether politics should play a part in relationships and watch how he responds. If he refuses to answer or deflects by saying something along the lines of “Can’t people have their own opinions in relationships?” I would assume conservative.

A lot of conservative men, particularly those who live in liberal areas, will be wary of discussing politics because they know there is a possibility it will lower their chances.

Show curiosity about the type of content they enjoy consuming

I would try talking about the type of content they enjoy consuming. I want them to reveal who they follow and listen to. Are they Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro, Tim Pool fan? These are all content creators that cater to the conservative crowd.

Anyone who follows them is more likely to be conservative. Worse, if there is even a mild interest in the redpill and manosphere, I would run, not walk, in the other direction.

Many redpill followers are not just conservative but downright far-right of center. They are almost guaranteed to be more extreme than your standard off-the-shelf conservative.

Bring up the news

I would bring up topics adjacent to politics but not explicitly about their political views. For example, something that has been happening in the news lately is the DEI issue. I would definitely ask about that and see where they stand.

Oftentimes, when you bring up topics about what’s happening in the news in a non-confrontational manner, men are surprisingly open.

It’s also a good way to learn if he keeps up with what’s happening around the world.

And that wraps it up. Are there any other tips I might have missed beyond these three? Feel free to share your thoughts.