Does your partner, family, spouse tell you that you have to loosen up and stop thinking so much?
Do your kids shy away from you, hiding their hurts and confusions?
Well quit whining about their problems and look at a problem you are facing: You are the ability to love and heal, and you have been taught to fear that ability. Fear of being a whiner has shut down your natural emotional process to the point where you are killing your emotional self.
These bodies, this life, our potential is sharing love, kindness, strength. If you fear whining, admitting pain, sadness, fear, you are shutting off the emotional digestive process. All emotions are potentially healthy, but like any nutrient, they can be caught in fear and stop in the system they are supposed to clean.
When your stomach or bowels are upset, your digestion shuts down to a degree that you feel pain and potentially guidance towards what to do. This same law applies to emotions. Pain is direction to change some relationship we are feeling as we interact with the world.
Of course your don’t want to be isolated, trapped with your pain, suffering. Paradoxically, if you share the pain you suggest to your body-mind to make a change.
Try whining.
I have talked to countless tough guys, who once they realized I wasn’t trying to “outman” them, took on their habit of hiding vulnerability, and began speaking to their loved ones without anger, and instead admitted their own fear.
This move to whining takes only a moment, a moment of brave honesty, which we, our families and life are all here to share.
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This post was previously published on The Father Connection.
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