Jacob Nordby shares the surprising perspective of an empowered modern woman who contradicts the Dalai Lama
“Yeah, but the Dalai Lama got it wrong with that one. I wish I could go tell him so myself. I have a real problem with a leader like him swinging the pendulum from patriarchy all the way over to matriarchy. The only reason we aren’t outraged by what he said is because it feeds the popular appetite. Imagine if he had said, ‘the world will be saved by the Western man’. We would be going apeshit right now.”
A few months ago, one of the most intelligent, empowered women I know made this statement during another of our conversations. I was in mid-sip and my mouthful of coffee felt suddenly scalding. What was this heresy she just uttered?
I had just quoted His Holiness as if the words were scripture, “the world will be saved by the Western woman…”. He said this during the Vancouver Peace Summit 2009 in a panel discussion with several other Nobel Peace Prize laureates—each of them immensely influential western women. He said that he is a feminist. And he opined that Western women will save the world.
I looked at my friend and she continued, her amber eyes intense.
“As long as we believe that the world will be saved by either men or women, we will keep getting more of the same–more conflict, more misunderstanding, more cycles of victimhood and abuse. The victims and oppressors will simply change places with each other.”
I shook my head, “But you are a women and you…”
“No, listen to me,” she held up her hand, “I hang out in circles of women who talk a lot about the rise of the Divine Feminine. I love that we are coming into our power—that we are finding our voices and stepping forward. I love that. What I don’t love is the notion that we will do it without men—or in spite of men. What we need to hear right now is that the world will be saved by the integrated human.”
“The world does want something different, but we are asking ourselves to create true partnership between the sexes. All of us together. Not men. Not women. Both of us.”
The conversation raced along and we explored mystical aspects of yin-yang, seed and womb, blade and chalice. Then this ever-practical woman brought it back around.
“Jacob, I want to beg men everywhere to integrate the Feminine in themselves. I want them to know their emotional, intuitive, nurturing selves. I want them to be safe in a whole new way. I need—the world needs—men to find wholeness. But we don’t want or need men to become women. We need the strength and initiation which is part of the universal Masculine, but I want men to stop seeing women as weak, crazy creatures who need to be kept in a box somewhere.”
“And what do you want women to do?” I said.
“I want women to be whole, too. I want us to celebrate our power. I want us to create the kind of magic which is unique to all things female. I want us to dance with the men of the world in a way this planet has never seen before. I want us to inspire the energy and ambition of men everywhere to do something different. That’s when the world will have peace.”
“So you are saying that we don’t need to dismantle the Patriarchy in favor of a new Matriarchy?”
I felt relieved to have gotten it right, unlike His Holiness.
“But what does the world look like when this happens? I mean in real terms.”
She smiled, “Oh, when that happens, the masculine will still be building buildings and creating things to impress the feminine. That won’t ever change. It is what keeps the whole Universe evolving.
Both aspects playing their part in the most powerful way possible.
“What will change is the wounding, the oppression, the victim games. We don’t need those anymore. We need male and female both turned on and in their full power. When we get radically honest with this, we will all stop lying and hiding. We will come up with practical solutions to ages-old problems. Do you think starvation and war and abusive laws can survive long in a world where people are completely honest?”
We nodded at the waiter who came by to refill our coffee.
Then she said, “Oh, and I’m not just talking about men and women in their usual roles. All of this applies to people whether they are straight, gay, bi or whatever. I’m talking about the principles of the male and female energies which exist in us all. We need to quit just trading the players back and forth. We need to create a new playing field altogether. This one isn’t about which one is more able or worthy to lead a better world. Now we are ready to do it together–if we choose.”
“Also, to make this shift, we need to stop swallowing the statements of those who are on a pedestal as the moral arbiters for the world as absolute truth. We won’t create a new world by blindly following the direction of even the most influential and well-intentioned voices. If we want to bring peace, we must stop making polarizing statements and choices. Now is the time for an integrated humanity to emerge, which will inevitably bring forth peace.”
Are you frustrated with the polarized struggle between Republican and Democrat, male and female, religious and atheist, capitalist and socialist–and every other battle which has plagued our planet since we can remember? Are you willing to question our most cherished beliefs which declare that this is the way things must be? Are you willing to see beyond the headlines which scream for us to choose sides and instead look for the integrated path?
I, for one, am no longer willing to blindly follow this endless pendulum swing. How about you?
Photo Credit: Flicker Commons/Speaker Pelosi
Author’s Note – If you would like to meet the woman who inspired this article, please visit Intuition Coach, Suzanne Michelle at her site: Revive With Energy
She offers regular video updates with insights for discovering and revealing our most empowered selves in the world. Suzanne embodies the integrated male and female attributes; both initiates and nurtures what is alive inside her. She supports the powerful emerging women in this world and invites men into their own vulnerability so that the great dance of creation may evolve more beautifully than ever before.
Both Suzanne and I are grateful for the work of The Dalai Lama and celebrate his presence during this era of great change.