Dead Bedroom vs. Boring Bedroom

What do you consider a dead bedroom?

Is it no sex?

OR just boring sex?

Let me tell you the difference.

One makes cheating justifiable (at least to me). A dead bedroom with zero sex puts the spouse in an intolerable position. They need an extracurricular agenda to get their sexual needs met. They NEED to cheat unless they want to be celibate.

And I tried celibacy. It sucked.
I masturbated so much that I thought my clit would fall off.

A boring bedroom means you are having sex at home, and they just want variety and excitement. Maybe a kink that isn’t fulfilled. Or some other type of thrill.

Does unsatisfying sex = a dead bedroom?

HELL NO.

Sure, your home sex life is unfulfilling. Most of us in long-term relationships are in that boat. Things get stale. Familiarity breeds boredom. Maybe you have a lack of chemistry or communication. Yet, you are still having intimacy.

It’s different when you know there is NOTHING on the horizon. And there never will be. The bedroom is done. Over and out. No sex ever.

Most people say they are in a dead bedroom when they’re in a boring one.

“Sex is so predictable.”
“So boring with her.”
“She won’t try anything new.”

He’s not satisfied with his wifey, yet he’s not a cake eater. “I need more,” he rationalizes. And no amount of coaching or counseling will make his sex life spontaneous and hot again. He wants an effortless and enthusiastic lover.

NOT HIS WIFE.

Go for it. Try to find some strange pussy on the side.

Maybe someone younger and with bigger tits. Or sexy tattoos. Or a cute pixie haircut. Someone different. That’s the key.

All the hidden longings come out.

I haven’t tried _____.
I’ve always wanted to try……

It’s normal.

I wanted the variety pack of dick, too, when I first stepped out. I was deprived in a deader-than-dead bedroom with no sex for years and years. I wanted all the cock.

Give me guys who know how to fuck.
The ones I didn’t have to explain a damn thing to.

Yes, to all of them.
Sumo size my sex life.

I was done with furious masturbation.

BUT don’t lie and say you’re in a dead bedroom when you’re only in a boring one. You aren’t sexless and deprived. You just aren’t fulfilled. Maybe she’s lost interest. Or you have. Or it’s a combination of both.

In the end, all we can do is be honest in our search. And accept that our “boring bedroom” might be a turn-off for a prospective affair partner.

Tell the truth about your situation.

Do you have a “dead bedroom” or a “boring bedroom”?
Tell me in the comments.

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