Question: I am really into this girl and I finally got the nerve to let her know I was interested (we had had a moment before on her birthday when I thought something was going to happen but I decided to be a gentleman) but when I approached her, she blew me off to go meet some guy! Did I wait too long or come on too strong?
Answer: Great question! First, I’d like to know about this moment that occurred before her birthday where you decided to be a gentleman.
That will tell me indeed if you were a gentleman and let her know you both respected her and desired her… which makes her feel safe, seen and irresistible.
Or if in your definition of being a gentleman, you came across as a nice guy, void of sexual energy, then she put you in the friend zone.
I’d like to know more about the specifics of how you approached her.
If you used some line you learned that made you sound inauthentic, sleazy, or trying to hard… then yes, you came on too strong.
If, however you were yourself, present, grounded, and connected to her, noticed something about her and commented on it… then I don’t think you came on too strong.
My gut says that because you’ve really liked this girl for a long time, you were mostly spinning in your head and perhaps not as present in your heart and body, yes?
You probably held back your sexual energy or were hesitant or anxious around her, which would make her “blow you off”.
It’s also possible that she’s not as amazing as you think. Perhaps she isn’t terribly kind if she blew you off! Perhaps she has low self-esteem and is into bad boys that will break her heart.
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From there, you should be able to decipher more about what happened.
However, my best recommendation is to join my men’s membership and get on the group calls right away so that I can laser coach your issues. This way, I can guarantee that you will make a better impression on her moving forward, or if she’s with this other guy, you will make a lasting positive impression on the next woman you desire.
Can’t wait to learn more information and support you in even more success!
A version of this post was previously published on allanapratt.com and is republished here with permission from the author.
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