Don’t Continue Dating Someone Hoping They’ll Change

I don’t know about you, bro…

But I’ve never bought a car hoping it’ll sprout wings and fly me to Mexico.

I’ve never bought a dog hoping it’ll learn how to clean the kitchen and make me a sandwich.

I’ve never bought a pair of sunglasses hoping they’ll keep me sheltered from the rain.

I accept things for what they are and that they’ll never change.

We’re all capable of doing this when shopping for items. But when we’re dating, it’s a different story.

So many men are incapable of accepting that their partner is a walking red flag.

Instead, they hold onto them, hoping they’ll change.

But most red flags in dating are like blood stains on a cream carpet. You can hope all you want, but they’re not going away.

If your date flakes on you at the last moment, she’s the type of woman who thinks that’s OK.
If she’s rude, obnoxious and still expects the princess treatment just because she’s hot, that’s the type of woman she is.
If your woman cheated on their ex to be with you, she’s probably going to cheat on you too.

When we keep these women in our lives, we show a lack of respect for ourselves.

This makes them respect us less and treat us worse.

The only way they’ll change is if there are consequences for their actions.

So, do yourself and them a favor by kicking these women to the curb.

Maybe then they’ll be inspired to learn from their mistakes and become better people.

In the meantime, you can work on finding a good woman who treats you with the respect you deserve.

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The Easiest Way To Stick To Your Boundaries In Dating

There’s one undeniably effective way to develop firm romantic boundaries and stick to them.

That’s developing romantic OPTIONS.

It’s far easier to bin off a partner who disrespects you when there are several more waiting for their turn.

We know this due to women’s behavior on dating apps.

They have such an abundance of options that one poorly-worded message can leave a man ghosted…

But what if you’re a man, and a rude disrespectful woman is your only romantic option?

In this case, the desire not to be lonely often persuades you to let things slide.

Perhaps you’ll convince yourself that she’ll change, even when you know deep down that she will not.

This is a horrible situation to be in, and it’s the number one cause of unhappy relationships.

That’s why I believe every man should learn how to be attractive to women in general before he chooses a girlfriend.

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Strong Boundaries Create Happy Relationships

When a man plays the field for a while, he doesn’t only learn what type of woman suits him best, he also develops the abundance mindset that stops him accepting poor behavior.

A man with an abundance mindset isn’t afraid to let a woman know she crossed his boundaries. Even on a first date. Even if she’s drop-dead gorgeous. He doesn’t even hesitate to warn her and let her know that such behavior won’t be tolerated.

This firmness in his actions reveals a man’s self-respect. It shows he knows his own value and often makes a woman feel more attracted to him. In many cases, it will inspire her to be on her best behaviour in future. If they get into a serious relationship, she’s less likely to start misbehaving. Because he’s shown from the start that he doesn’t tolerate BS.

That’s if he gives her a second chance, of course. In cases of serious disrespect, it’s best to cut ties as quickly as possible.

This becomes easy when you believe in your ability to attract someone who meets your standards.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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