Swiping left and right can feel like a full time job. I like her, I don’t like her, and holy shit I know her. It can be exhausting. However, there are other options out there, they don’t serve the same purpose though.
I’m a guy that, in all honesty, takes a pretty good picture. This is great news for me on Tinder. However, this just isn’t enough anymore because you need to stand out on these apps. There is no room for a dude with 12 selfies and a dog for good measure, that’s what everyone is doing!
I’m just getting back into the world of dating apps and I hate to brag, but it’s kind of my sweet spot. I have a ton of luck with the ladies on Tinder, because, well, I take a good picture.
On the other hand, I have luck on Hinge for many more reasons, and these reasons are actual foundations for a relationship. Here’s the deal with Hinge…you actually get a feel for the person you “like.” Therefore, you can let people in, and show them a bit of your personality. Looks and picture quality don’t matter half as much on Hinge as they do on Tinder.
Secondly, the clientele are very different between these two apps. I’ve come to find that the girls on Hinge are looking to make a connection, whereas the girls on Tinder are mostly looking for something casual. This is fine, and may help you go in the direction you’re headed.
Along with these key differences, there is a huge talking point of what I see on these sites (remember I’m a straight guy, so all I see are female profiles). Some girls aren’t trying to be unique. Here is what I mean:
You love the beach:
I live on the east coast and I SWEAR almost every girl says she likes the beach. You know why? We live near the beach. We all like the beach.
If it isn’t unique to you, don’t say it. I promise, the guys who are actually looking for a relationship are just scrolling right by your profile.
Margaritas & Tacos:
I don’t know what it is, but it feels like every girl is currently obsessed with tacos. A few years back when I was on these apps, every girl seemed to be a “pizza queen” and now the new fad is tacos.
As far as margs are concerned, if that is one of your core interests, it leads me to think that maybe you have a slight drinking problem (not that I don’t enjoy the occasional marg). I am looking for a girlfriend, not to be someone’s personal Uber driver.
I’ll probably like my dog more than you:
Why do so many girls say this? It is brutal. What about this statement makes me want to go out with you. Sounds like you already have a boyfriend, and his name is Rex.
IDK why I downloaded this:
Playing the, “I’m too cool for this” card is not the way to go in my opinion. The only people who are seeing this, are PEOPLE WHO ALSO DOWNLOADED THE APP.
Maybe it isn’t the best idea to pretend you’re cooler than all of your potential suitors.
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After bashing seemingly 75% of the women on these apps, it is so easy to see the girls that are looking for something substantial. Knowing that most girls use those “click bait” type of bios, it makes you wonder why they feel like they can’t find a “nice guy.” Probably because they are coming off as incredibly “basic.” Yea I said it.
I’ve written a lot of articles about finding yourself and becoming one with yourself. These 75% of girls on these apps either haven’t discovered who they are, and lean on their looks, or they are too afraid to show who they really are. That’s my little psychoanalysis.
The girls I go for:
I, like most guys, have a clear cut type. There are the girls who are overtly sexual and use the type of bios I stated above. Then there are the girls I prefer. These girls are wholesome, and have innocent, yet funny bios.
These bios almost force me to look deeper into their profile. Some of the things that really stand out, to me are interests that are genuinely unique. For instance, there are girls that love scuba diving. How cool is that? It piqued my interest! I had to see more. Others on Hinge tell crazy travel stories that lead you to ask for more.
All in all, a Hinge profile is the way to go and it’s also a lot like writing a blog post. The title needs to draw you in for more. Without a good title, the greatest content ever would go completely unseen. Another analogy would be sales. You need to sell your potential boyfriend/girlfriend on why they should stop scrolling and look at you, and why they should want to talk to you.
We are all human and all have a uniqueness about us. It’s up to you to have the courage to display to the world what is so attractive about you.
When I see something unique, it not only makes me interested, it tells me that you put effort into your account. With effort comes a desire for something serious, and that cannot be overlooked.
In sum, you girls need to show some effort in order to attract one of the “good guys.” I’m sure the douchebags will flock to a bikini picture and a caption saying, “I like my dog more than you.” However, that’s not what you’re looking for right?
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This post was previously published on Hello, Love and is republished here with permission from the author.
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