Lack of recognition runs rampant in organizations. The only time you’re noticed is when you screw up.
You spend hours preparing for a tough conversation that goes well. Who knows?
Hard work is often overlooked.
Recognition Don’ts
#1. Don’t deflect.
“It was nothing,” devalues your work. Don’t insult the judgement of the person giving acknowledgement.
#2. Don’t do a post-mortem.
Critique kills the moment. Avoid pointing out what could have been better.
#3. Don’t over-explain.
Long backstories bore people. Don’t talk about how much work you did.
#4. Don’t humble-brag.
Fake humility is self-promotion. “I’m surprised I was able to get this done with all the other projects I’m leading.”
Recognition Dos
#1. Say how it lands.
“Your words encourage me.” You stifle acknowledgement when you blow it off.
#2. Write a follow-up note.
Express appreciation for being noticed. “Your feedback makes me feel like a valuable part of the team. It’s a pleasure to serve.”
(Choose between #1 and #2. Don’t do both.)
#3. Share credit.
Mention team members who contributed.
Multiply recognition by receiving it skillfully.
Nearly 80% say Lack of Appreciation is a Major Reason for Leaving
The Importance of Employee Appreciation: Low Cost, High Impact Gallup
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