You have met this girl and she has really swept you off your feet. Maybe it is her kindness, her laughter, her charm. Problem is that there are other dudes who see her the same way you do and are making efforts to win her attention. What will you do?
How will you stand out from the rest? How do you entice a woman to like you? There are various techniques to spark a girl’s attention if you like her. Although it takes some time and work, the process itself is enjoyable because it also sparks feelings in you since you are also in love with this girl; take it as an advantage. Having her fall in love with you is only half the battle; the other is keeping her by your side once the hormones subside and reality kicks in.
It is crucial that you treat a partner properly, and you should be aware of inappropriate language and behavior. You’ll be led in the proper route by these pieces of guidance. The secret to a successful relationship is to tailor the dating etiquette and rules to the circumstances in order to win a woman’s heart.
Here are some hacks that will make you win her attention and set you up for a fantastic relationship:
- Express your feelings and nurture the love. This is where most dudes fail, they think hovering around a girl without stating their intentions will make her automatically fall for them. Women like men who know what they want; declare your feelings to her, make it known what your intentions. Be clear in communicating with her. This shows her that you are serious about her. As she falls for you, nurture this love bit by bit by sharing your goals and dreams with her. In case you hurt her feelings always own up and apologize.
- Create intimate moments every time you find an opportunity. As much as you visit and meet up, don’t make these normal meet-ups, make them romantic as possible. Don’t visit often during day time; change this to evenings, and try catching the sunsets together. Take a stroll with her at night while you explore nature then delve into uncomfortable conversations with her. Express thoughts, desires, and vulnerabilities; this is beyond intimacy, you will be able to bypass her boundaries and this brings you closer to her heart. At this point, you are winning.
- Work on yourself and have your own life. Girls will chase you the most if you have that ambition and vibe. They love a hungry, ripped guy who’s confident and pursues his purpose. There is no point in chasing after her if you yourself aren’t winning. Focus on your accomplishments and achieve as much as possible, let this be a plus for you.
- Don’t make yourself too available because you will be taken for granted. The same psychology applies in business, rare is gold. In this dating game, playing hard to get is desirable so long as you know how to play your cards. It is an art women learn at an early age, employ the same tactic but better and she will fall for you.
- Be well-groomed. This should be all rounded, your physique, wardrobe, perfume and have some color in your accessories (wristwatch, sunglasses, etc). There is nothing as attractive for women as a fresh, scented, clean and well-dressed man. This shows that you also love and prioritize yourself, there is no way she will fall for a dude who doesn’t take care of themselves.
- Avoid being clingy. You feel insecure after falling for her and spending time with her. Nothing is more irritating than an attention-seeking, envious, and overly interested-guy.
- Make her feel special. Always prioritize her over other female friends, surprise her with stuff but stay within your budget. Try going overboard by buying flowers, cooking for her, and sending over her favorite lunch package when she’s having a rough day. Always aim to make her fall for you harder than the guys she’s been with in the past.
- Be her friend and make it fun. Focus on being a friend to her before being her man, she wants to fall in love with her best friend. Someone she can joke with, someone she can tease, someone she can open up to, and someone who makes her feel secure. It’s essential to form that connection since knowing what not to do around her gives you an advantage. When she can confide in you as she would her best friend, your connection will become stronger. Find shared interests and activities. Have a sense of humor; she’ll like being around you if you can make her laugh in difficult social settings, make her feel less anxious, and make her laugh.
- Be optimistic. You should be the type of guy who is chilled and takes things positively, not a passive guy who always rants about everything. To women, it is acceptable for them to be emotional about everything but if you start being negative and emotional about things around her, it is a dealbreaker and you are losing this race.
- Make her feel secure. We all want a person who we feel comfortable with, comfortable sharing our secrets and insecurities with; why should this be any different with women? Be there for her when she feels low, be a good listener and make her feel like she can always count on you. Let her come running to you with all her problems and you should be the one to make her feel relaxed and at home. At this point, you are maintaining this relationship.
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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