For all the men who give humanity a bad name, there are good men and dads who renew our faith.
I’m dedicating this post to my Hippie Father; who told me I could do anything. Be anything, and warrant anything I desire.
Lately, social media is flooded with extraordinarily terrible headlines. Primarily we’ve heard a lot about wretched men. Men who have used their power to either get away with horrible acts or have tried to run from the actions they have caused.
We have endured Donald Trump’s self-righteous opinions on race and gender. And presently our eyes are being opened to a corrupt, self-serving Justice System, with the poorly executed Sentence by Judge Persky in the Brock Turner case.
Men aren’t favoring valiantly in the eyes of women these days.
But not all men are bad. As women, we have to remember this as we stand on our feminist pedestal and shout our angry words into the crowd.
We have to remember, there are good men.
I get it. I am angry too. In fact, I’m horrified at the recent events devouring my news feed. Terrified for my children growing up in a day and age where we are supposed to know better. Be better. I too wrote my rage filled post concerning Judge Persky’s lame Sentence. And, I continue to stand by it.
With that being said, I want to give a shout out to the Good Men. The ones on the sidelines, maybe even a little afraid to speak now. For, we are an angry mob. Pitchforks in hand. Ready to burn the next man who crosses us or one of our sisters.
Women are angry, and we deserve to be. We want change, and we deserve respect. Although let’s not burn all men at the stake.
This issue isn’t men against women; it’s a matter of a failed Justice System, which affects all people, even men.
In the eye of this storm, generated by a broken justice system, I want to let the good men know, I see you. I hear you, and I appreciate you.
You are the men that raise your daughters without a Mother yet teach them you are a feminist, and they can be anything they aspire to be.
You are the heroes that didn’t have a Father and have learned to be an astonishing Dad all on your own.
You are the men that share your love of a woman without fear of being ridiculed by other men.
You are the brothers who stand by your sisters and believe they can achieve anything a man can.
You are the advocates for rape survivors who share personal and tragic stories of the women you love.
You are the good men, the ones who support and raise women up, and I thank you for everything you do.
I have penned this to encompass all men, but there is one man in particular who deserves all my admiration.
To my Dad, who convinced me, I wasn’t a girl, but a person. To the Man and Father, who behaved in a way that cast a shadow of love, not hate. The person who, despite me having had a frightening man hurt my soul, taught me there were and are good men in this world.
He is the man who showed me; I am the star in his eyes. That I am bright enough to shine in a universe full of sparkle. He is the Father, who became a Dad despite not having a fabulous Father of his own.
The man who taught me there is strength and talent inside me, and to go forth without fear, to never compromise my beliefs.
Thank you Dad
Thank you to all the good men, I appreciate you.
I understand it may be hard to speak out now, that you may not know what to say, or how to act in the wake of hearing such personal tragedies. Some of which may be from close friends or women you love. But I see you there, holding the hands of your loved ones, reaching out to your daughter’s and hugging your sister’s. I hear you, and am grateful you are there.
Thank you for your support.
My final thought goes to the two men who recently gained attention in the news for saving a young woman from a much more tragic ending to a story we all know too well. Peter Jonsson and Carl-Fredrik Arndt are the men who saved Emily Doe from behind the dumpster—they chased down Brock Turner and held him until the police arrived.
Photo: JD Hancock/Flickr
This essay originally appeared on New World Mom.
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